Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Sure. Sounds good! I normally ask 2-3 days before hand for a first date. For dates after that, sometimes I'll just call a girl up during the day and set something up for that night.SexinEar said:I'm never really shure on this. I'm going to ask this girl out for Friday and today is Wednesday, so im thinking today wouldnt be a bad day to call her. What do you think?
I second that!Lucas718 said:Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lucas718 said:Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.
Why not CoFFEE???SexinEar said:Hahaa honestly i'm not feeling the coffee idea, im 16. I just called her and no one picked up. Yea i'm not gonna call again til tommorrow don't worry, if she calls me back i'm proubly not gonna pick up and wait til tomm anyway.
I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.