"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How Many Days In Advance Do You Ask Out A Girl
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
Sure. Sounds good! I normally ask 2-3 days before hand for a first date. For dates after that, sometimes I'll just call a girl up during the day and set something up for that night.SexinEar said:
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I second that!Lucas718 said:
IMHO there is no such thing as "how many days in advance" . .I opt on the side of leaving it open ended (i.e she can decide), but have a contingency just in case (I.e Sunday monday, or what ever you feel like) . .
Just (Want to have a coffee some time is ideal) . .
Now quit talking, and ask her !:cuss:
I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pimp-sicle
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Lucas718 said:
EXACTLY!!
PIMP
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Why not CoFFEE???SexinEar said:
The philosophers elexir is not for you then hey??:kick: This is not the point there . . The point is here - nothing here is set in stone . .Especially as we are talking GIRLS . . .ImHO the most important thing is to go on the offensive . . .Old friend of mine taught me a nice rule regarding calling girls . . .
Yip . . ."Its three strikes and your out" . . .So call her three times, if she does not return , forget it and move on . .But if you call her twice, and especially leave a message for her to call you,when she does, then , she is back to zero, and the three strikes are back on! You follow!?
And if she calls you back . .I would say pick it up . .Don't stall and see if you can close . . .Otherwise, she may not pick up tomorrow, or her gold fish will die, and she will be too upset to speak to you . . .
Good luck and good hunting!:trouble: