How I got Gaslighted.

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The good news is that once you go through it one good time, your frame is 100% rock solid. Super painful--but you learn to never prioritize someone else's experience of reality over your own ever again.
i agree that experience is the best teacher on this, but some men are so desperate that they will fall for it many time over.
 

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I literally just went through this with a woman I was dating for the past 3 months.

Everything appeared normal in the beginning, but around month 2 there started to be some major red flags. Dropping I love you's and how amazing a couple we are, asking me about other women and if I was sleeping around, then flaking on multiple dates with lying excuses and the next day telling me how much she misses me, calling or texting me nonstop at night if I was out with friends... The list goes on and I felt like it was a constant roller coaster with her. The sex was really good, I suppose that's why I tolerated it for as long as I did. Definitely a toxic relationship to be in with no stability and security. Gotta bail at any of those signs especially that early.
 

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One thing that got me in the past was the tear/crying manipulation.
Fell for it way too many time, crying for trivial things is not a normal reaction.

Now i just ignore unless ik its from something serious.
 
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By themselves, women are nothing and deep down they know it, which is why their default mode is lies, manipulation and more lies.

It's their preeminent survival skill.
So true. This is how they kick the crap out of passive men and separate the wheat from the chaff.
It’s not evil unless you are passive. Then of course they are the evilest thing around. Lol
 

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So true. This is how they kick the crap out of passive men and separate the wheat from the chaff.
It’s not evil unless you are passive. Then of course they are the evilest thing around. Lol
I think they do it because of resentment.
Its funny because some women would never kick the crap out of any human being except their bf/husband.

they should not treat their love one worst they would a stranger
 
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they should not treat their love one worst they would a stranger
Oh that is a whole new subject of interest. A great thread indeed. Why is it she will treat her BF or husband like dirt and her trashy part time lover like the golden goose?
The truth in that would turn a passive man inside out and destroy his idealistic version of life. In fact I will think on it and start it myself. I’ve been looking at this for years.
It’s the most brutal truth I know. A husband is ALWAYS in second position to another man or fantasy prospect in a woman’s mind. Even if she never cheats.
 

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Reasons for the resentment would be interesting to know
Some are obvious but others are like WTF!!
 

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Reasons for the resentment would be interesting to know
Some are obvious but others are like WTF!!
Because they built you up and put you on a pedestal and now they resent you not living up to than insane standard.
 

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Oh that is a whole new subject of interest. A great thread indeed. Why is it she will treat her BF or husband like dirt and her trashy part time lover like the golden goose?
The truth in that would turn a passive man inside out and destroy his idealistic version of life. In fact I will think on it and start it myself. I’ve been looking at this for years.
It’s the most brutal truth I know. A husband is ALWAYS in second position to another man or fantasy prospect in a woman’s mind. Even if she never cheats.
Do you think that trashy part time lover is "better" than you?
 
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