"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How have u gotten over "LOVE" ?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This simple answer is TIME. The thing that got me past 'her' was finally realizing that based on what happened, I can never take her back and keep my self respect. This of course is situation specific.Originally posted by aequitas
How many of you have actually been in love and then had to get over that girl that u loved?
Please tell your stories of how you got over your "love" for her here
Laterz....
Matt Rogers
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I fell in love with a girl and dated her for a few weeks and she cut off contact with me. Now I know I hardly knew the girl-but I fell hard for her.
For the first few weeks I felt awful. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't stop thinking about her. I kept replaying everything over in my mind, thinking how I could have saved the relationship and beating myself up over all my mistakes. I was a wreck and spent my time moping around, drinking and composing love poetry and love songs. Even produced an album of songs.
After that I realised I was wasting my time pining over her, and that I had to channel my energy into improving myself so that I could attract a girl even better than her. I threw myself into my academic work, my weightlifting and did some major self-reflection identifying why I acted like I did (needy, insecure).
I am still not competely over her, and still harbour a hope that when she sees the "new" me she will want to give things another go, but I am feeling much better.
Frank Zappa
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I get the feeling that you (aequinas) have to compare yourself to others to run your life. You really need to start to just worry about yourself. Everyone's life, merits, and gauges are different and your only real comparison is with yourself. Focus on self-improvement with respect to your current and past self.
~Zappa
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MindOverMatter
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there is a new record of afcism being broken here every week...
MindOverMatter
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No son, being a don juan is about seducing women and making THEM fall in love with you. it has nothing to do with turning into an over-emotional woman of a man like you seem to be doing...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MindOverMatter
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SpeedRunner
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I suggest u rent out a movie called "Don Juan De Marco", then maybe u will see where i am coming from. ( And the movie explains it very well, in a way that words cannot explain what i am trying to say)
and u make it out as if its a BAD thing to fall in love with a woman... well all i can say, is that it is NOT.
There is a big difference between being a "pimp" or a "player" and being a Don Jaun.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Alen-Delon
Senior Don Juan
SpeedRunner
Don Juan
lol! i heard that was very true.Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
How do you get over a woman? The quickest way I know is to marry her. Heheheh,...
I am with you. Love for me is very different, not losing balls and stuff, just a strong bond to someone. If you revert back to AFC when in love then all this DJ stuff has been a charade. Principles come first.
If that's true then I don't like the main discussion, and def. I don't like making an effort of attracting girls. :]