"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How have u gotten over "LOVE" ?

Do you believe in "Love"?

  • Yes

    Votes: 23 82.1%

  • No

    Votes: 5 17.9%
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How many of you have actually been in love and then had to get over that girl that u loved?

Please tell your stories of how you got over your "love" for her here;)

Laterz....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by aequitas
How many of you have actually been in love and then had to get over that girl that u loved?

Please tell your stories of how you got over your "love" for her here;)

Laterz....
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This simple answer is TIME. The thing that got me past 'her' was finally realizing that based on what happened, I can never take her back and keep my self respect. This of course is situation specific.
 
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lol. I believe the simple answer is you get over love by falling in love with someone else. Time helps to heal the pain though, as does keeping yourself busy.

I fell in love with a girl and dated her for a few weeks and she cut off contact with me. Now I know I hardly knew the girl-but I fell hard for her.

For the first few weeks I felt awful. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't stop thinking about her. I kept replaying everything over in my mind, thinking how I could have saved the relationship and beating myself up over all my mistakes. I was a wreck and spent my time moping around, drinking and composing love poetry and love songs. Even produced an album of songs.

After that I realised I was wasting my time pining over her, and that I had to channel my energy into improving myself so that I could attract a girl even better than her. I threw myself into my academic work, my weightlifting and did some major self-reflection identifying why I acted like I did (needy, insecure).

I am still not competely over her, and still harbour a hope that when she sees the "new" me she will want to give things another go, but I am feeling much better.
 
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NO offense but I'm starting to get the feeling that you're starting threads just to start threads.
 
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Originally posted by xblitz44x
NO offense but I'm starting to get the feeling that you're starting threads just to start threads.
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I get the feeling that you (aequinas) have to compare yourself to others to run your life. You really need to start to just worry about yourself. Everyone's life, merits, and gauges are different and your only real comparison is with yourself. Focus on self-improvement with respect to your current and past self.

~Zappa
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MindOverMatter

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what is up with all these lame threads about love lately...

there is a new record of afcism being broken here every week...
 
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reality check!

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
what is up with all these lame threads about love lately...

there is a new record of afcism being broken here every week...
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by saying this YOU are the only afc here.

Don Juan has EVERYTHING to do with love!

In a dj's eye's, love is the most beautifull thing possible.
 
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Re: reality check!

Originally posted by aequitas
by saying this YOU are the only afc here.

Don Juan has EVERYTHING to do with love!

In a dj's eye's, love is the most beautifull thing possible.
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No son, being a don juan is about seducing women and making THEM fall in love with you. it has nothing to do with turning into an over-emotional woman of a man like you seem to be doing...
 
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I think MoM talked about the insecurity which surrounds the posts, not the posts themselves. I believe in love, I'd like to meet one really cool girl sometime.
 
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Re: Re: reality check!

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
No son, being a don juan is about seducing women and making THEM fall in love with you. it has nothing to do with turning into an over-emotional woman of a man like you seem to be doing...
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This is your definition, I see no wrong with falling in love with girls. Strong emotions is what makes us human.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Life don't get me wrong, i'm not against love, but most guys don't know how to do it without losing their balls in the process and then end up asking things like "how do I get over her" like our friend here is doing. It's annoying to read it on a forum where the main discussion has always been about attracting women and making them love YOU.
 
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MoM: I am not saying that i want to fall i love with every woman that i meeet... but love consists alot of a dj's life (well, at least it should) and i never said that a the man must love the woman, or that the woman must love the man, i said in general that love is a beautifull thing.

I suggest u rent out a movie called "Don Juan De Marco", then maybe u will see where i am coming from. ( And the movie explains it very well, in a way that words cannot explain what i am trying to say)

and u make it out as if its a BAD thing to fall in love with a woman... well all i can say, is that it is NOT.

There is a big difference between being a "pimp" or a "player" and being a Don Jaun.
 
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How do you get over a woman? The quickest way I know is to marry her. Heheheh,...:D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well its all in your head how easily you can get over love. you just concentrate on other things in your life channel your thoughts to something other then that person u love and everytime sought of her comes back to your head u kind watch it go into your head and go out. dont try to force your mind to do anything just analyze whats happening. it shouldnt that hard to get over it. according to my experiance. Peace
 
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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
Life don't get me wrong, i'm not against love, but most guys don't know how to do it without losing their balls in the process and then end up asking things like "how do I get over her" like our friend here is doing. It's annoying to read it on a forum where the main discussion has always been about attracting women and making them love YOU.
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I am with you. Love for me is very different, not losing balls and stuff, just a strong bond to someone. If you revert back to AFC when in love then all this DJ stuff has been a charade. Principles come first.

If that's true then I don't like the main discussion, and def. I don't like making an effort of attracting girls. :]
 
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