Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
And i bet you bought her something too...Originally posted by keemo
she gave me money to buy her something from the school before
Just develop your own style.Originally posted by keemo
Thanks ,
But how do I trigger attraction inside her ? I remember someone posted something bout this long ago but I cant remember it .
And more importantly , That girl is in a different class , but our break times are the same , she always hangs out with her group of girls , sometimes shes wandering off by herself , she gave me money to buy her something from the school before , and her class has all of my boy best friends , here are some tips to help you find more about my situation . Ok , my best friend's only good at teasing the girls then running away , while 1 or 2 girls chase him (thats something i dont like to do , its pointless..) , so i dont think he can help me . Ok any more suggestions ?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Thats the stupidest thing I heard on this forum. Everyone wants to stay away from the LJBF zone but you want to get in it. Read the bible, then you wont ask such questions.Originally posted by keemo
my objective is to be one of her good friends (almost best friends) , or vice versa (one of MY good friends) .
You made a post about how to make a girl your friend?? What the hell is wrong with you??Originally posted by keemo
my objective is to be one of her good friends (almost best friends) , or vice versa (one of MY good friends)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
:crackup:Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You made a post about how to make a girl your friend?? What the hell is wrong with you??![]()