Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And i bet you bought her something too...Originally posted by keemo
she gave me money to buy her something from the school before
Just develop your own style.Originally posted by keemo
Thanks ,
But how do I trigger attraction inside her ? I remember someone posted something bout this long ago but I cant remember it .
And more importantly , That girl is in a different class , but our break times are the same , she always hangs out with her group of girls , sometimes shes wandering off by herself , she gave me money to buy her something from the school before , and her class has all of my boy best friends , here are some tips to help you find more about my situation . Ok , my best friend's only good at teasing the girls then running away , while 1 or 2 girls chase him (thats something i dont like to do , its pointless..) , so i dont think he can help me . Ok any more suggestions ?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thats the stupidest thing I heard on this forum. Everyone wants to stay away from the LJBF zone but you want to get in it. Read the bible, then you wont ask such questions.Originally posted by keemo
my objective is to be one of her good friends (almost best friends) , or vice versa (one of MY good friends) .
You made a post about how to make a girl your friend?? What the hell is wrong with you??Originally posted by keemo
my objective is to be one of her good friends (almost best friends) , or vice versa (one of MY good friends)
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
:crackup:Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You made a post about how to make a girl your friend?? What the hell is wrong with you??![]()