How do you guys go about playing the slow game

[FlexpertHamilton]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

 

[BPH]

Having done the hotel thing a few times now, her agreeing to that suggestion is in and of itself a green light for sex. Every time I've gotten us a room (or the one time the girl had the room already), it ended in sex.

That said, almost every time I've been in the talking stage with a woman for several weeks without sex, it's inevitably fizzled out when we couldn't get face time. Her being closer in the fall probably wouldn't make it any easier either, since she's gonna be surrounded by attractive young dudes who will be inviting her to the top-tier frat parties and whatnot.

If I were you, I would make the room offer, but otherwise I wouldn't put too much thought into maintaining this relationship for a whole month. You could also just invite her over, right? An hour isn't far.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I am just speculating, but after a month of going from being bored and having nothing to do to being surrounded by new responsibilities, new classmates, new experiences, and new suitors, she may naturally become more distracted and you become an after-thought. Unfortunately, this is one of the consequences you have to deal with when you don't have all your ducks lined up in a row.

I think you should still ask her out. Take an Uber, a taxi, or suggest meeting halfway. If she is genuinely attracted to you, I don't think the location will matter as much. There is a reason why, when someone is traveling, it is usually advised to let them hit you up when they are back in town because maintaining something long-distance without a clear direction can easily turn you into just a pen pal.

I would also avoid overthinking the hotel/Airbnb situation. If the attraction is there and the date goes well, the logistics become much easier to solve. Maybe keep the first meet simple and low-pressure rather than making it feel like a big investment upfront.

 

[nicksaiz65]

You could probably keep the financial risk in case she flakes small by getting the cheapest room that’s still clean and private enough that she won’t walk in and immediately get weirded out. Definitely look at recent guest photos and reviews.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

I've pulled off the hotel/motel thing many times and I've always waited until they agreed...numerous times it was the first time we fvcked.

If they are interested, this will not be an obstacle for 95% of the women and some of them even get turned on by the thought.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I've pulled off the hotel/motel thing many times and I've always waited until they agreed...numerous times it was the first time we fvcked.

If they are interested, this will not be an obstacle for 95% of the women and some of them even get turned on by the thought.

This isn't a woman its a very young girl who will likely find the idea of going to motel with a random dude she barely knows quite weird
( and rightfully so )

 

[Bingo-Player]

OP with all due respect if you're living with your parents beyond the age of 25 women are the absolute least of your worries

There are a few guys on this forum running around chasing tail while their core lives seem shambolic

You gotta get your priorities straight and that means being 100% self sufficent

Own place , own car , own income

Then you can get the Huzz

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This isn't a woman its a very young girl who will likely find the idea of going to motel with a random dude she barely knows quite weird
( and rightfully so )

I'm not talking about necessarily on the first meet up, I am talking after they've spent some time together over a few dates and things are progressing towards that.

The best time is usually when things are starting to get heavy and you just ask them if they want to go somewhere more private with you.

 

[Gamisch]

Slow game = no game.

Urgency is necessary when dealing with( hot) women. Slow game can be done when you have a roster you're happy with and you could care less about her. Any other scenarios means you HAVE TO be a MAN and take the initiative. Generally speaking you have about 8 weeks to pull her in...

But, overall I agree with @Bingo-Player . You see, regardless of how and why you moved back to your parents( which is a blessing if you need it) the hot blonde confronts you with reality. You gotta get your priorities right!!

I remember going out with a hot brunette and the conversation was fire so we stayed longer than I'd expected. But it also cost me way more than I expected and at some point I knew I might not been able to pay the bill...that was one of those moments when I realised I HAD TO stop chasing p00sy (for a while) .

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

Not being snarky, just candid:

I'd prioritize securing a residence of your own over snagging a piece of ass

 

[nicksaiz65]

Slow game = no game.

Urgency is necessary when dealing with( hot) women. Slow game can be done when you have a roster you're happy with and you could care less about her. Any other scenarios means you HAVE TO be a MAN and take the initiative. Generally speaking you have about 8 weeks to pull her in...

But, overall I agree with @Bingo-Player . You see, regardless of how and why you moved back to your parents( which is a blessing if you need it) the hot blonde confronts you with reality. You gotta get your priorities right!!

I remember going out with a hot brunette and the conversation was fire so we stayed longer than I'd expected. But it also cost me way more than I expected and at some point I knew I might not been able to pay the bill...that was one of those moments when I realised I HAD TO stop chasing p00sy (for a while) .

If you don’t mind me asking how long did you have to lock in?

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Having done the hotel thing a few times now, her agreeing to that suggestion is in and of itself a green light for sex. Every time I've gotten us a room (or the one time the girl had the room already), it ended in sex.

That's a good point. Now that I think about it too any time I booked a hotel it led to sex.

Her being closer in the fall probably wouldn't make it any easier

I actually found out she'll be several hours away when she goes to college so it'll be even harder to happen then. Getting a hotel is the only move going forward. But even if we just do it a few times it would be worth it for that young poon.

You could also just invite her over, right? An hour isn't far.

Nah at my folks place I have zero privacy, no chance of that happening.

I've pulled off the hotel/motel thing many times and I've always waited until they agreed...numerous times it was the first time we fvcked.

If they are interested, this will not be an obstacle for 95% of the women and some of them even get turned on by the thought.

Yeah, hotel sex is phenomenal and I do think it's true that if she agrees to come in the first place it's kind of implied she is down.

This isn't a woman its a very young girl who will likely find the idea of going to motel with a random dude she barely knows quite weird
( and rightfully so )

I've had several college-aged chicks come straight to my apartment for the first meetup to fvck. It's not that ununusual. The youngest was 19 and she drove an hour to come over after only texting for a couple days, we didn't even do a video chat.

A halfway decent a hotel is actually a lot safer than meeting at someones home. And when I say halfway decent I mean a proper hotel with a lobby, not one of those cheap motels with those individual, unconnected rooms in a parking lot.

Not being snarky, just candid:
I'd prioritize securing a residence of your own over snagging a piece of ass

OP with all due respect if you're living with your parents beyond the age of 25 women are the absolute least of your worries

There are a few guys on this forum running around chasing tail while their core lives seem shambolic

You gotta get your priorities straight and that means being 100% self sufficent

Own place , own car , own income

Then you can get the Huzz

Of course, this goes without saying and I agree. However it's not like I've been living with them my whole life, it's transitory. In any case, I'm not looking to get into a relationship, just a few bangs or a short term fling at most. Due to my current circumstances, unless a chick is particularly attractive I am not even interested at entertaining the idea in the first place.

Also, I've done the whole "monk mode" thing before when I had more important things to focus on in my life, but after a certain point it starts to feel cope to me. It's not like an occassional bang is going to destablize you or something. There's a difference between chasing tail and being an opportunist.

if an opportunity presents itself, why not go for it? The older I get the few opportunities i'm gonna have to bang chicks this young.

 

[Gamisch]

If you don’t mind me asking how long did you have to lock in?

It took like 5 years . Shyte was a mess. I'm talking about going from a hopeless situation to actually hoarding some wins..

Relationships went terrible . Ironically enough those also got significantly better after I stopped focusing on women and started grinding like a maniac .