How do you guys go about playing the slow game

[FlexpertHamilton]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

 

[BPH]

Having done the hotel thing a few times now, her agreeing to that suggestion is in and of itself a green light for sex. Every time I've gotten us a room (or the one time the girl had the room already), it ended in sex.

That said, almost every time I've been in the talking stage with a woman for several weeks without sex, it's inevitably fizzled out when we couldn't get face time. Her being closer in the fall probably wouldn't make it any easier either, since she's gonna be surrounded by attractive young dudes who will be inviting her to the top-tier frat parties and whatnot.

If I were you, I would make the room offer, but otherwise I wouldn't put too much thought into maintaining this relationship for a whole month. You could also just invite her over, right? An hour isn't far.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I am just speculating, but after a month of going from being bored and having nothing to do to being surrounded by new responsibilities, new classmates, new experiences, and new suitors, she may naturally become more distracted and you become an after-thought. Unfortunately, this is one of the consequences you have to deal with when you don't have all your ducks lined up in a row.

I think you should still ask her out. Take an Uber, a taxi, or suggest meeting halfway. If she is genuinely attracted to you, I don't think the location will matter as much. There is a reason why, when someone is traveling, it is usually advised to let them hit you up when they are back in town because maintaining something long-distance without a clear direction can easily turn you into just a pen pal.

I would also avoid overthinking the hotel/Airbnb situation. If the attraction is there and the date goes well, the logistics become much easier to solve. Maybe keep the first meet simple and low-pressure rather than making it feel like a big investment upfront.

 

[nicksaiz65]

You could probably keep the financial risk in case she flakes small by getting the cheapest room that’s still clean and private enough that she won’t walk in and immediately get weirded out. Definitely look at recent guest photos and reviews.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

I've pulled off the hotel/motel thing many times and I've always waited until they agreed...numerous times it was the first time we fvcked.

If they are interested, this will not be an obstacle for 95% of the women and some of them even get turned on by the thought.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I've pulled off the hotel/motel thing many times and I've always waited until they agreed...numerous times it was the first time we fvcked.

If they are interested, this will not be an obstacle for 95% of the women and some of them even get turned on by the thought.

This isn't a woman its a very young girl who will likely find the idea of going to motel with a random dude she barely knows quite weird
( and rightfully so )

 

[Bingo-Player]

OP with all due respect if you're living with your parents beyond the age of 25 women are the absolute least of your worries

There are a few guys on this forum running around chasing tail while their core lives seem shambolic

You gotta get your priorities straight and that means being 100% self sufficent

Own place , own car , own income

Then you can get the Huzz

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This isn't a woman its a very young girl who will likely find the idea of going to motel with a random dude she barely knows quite weird
( and rightfully so )

I'm not talking about necessarily on the first meet up, I am talking after they've spent some time together over a few dates and things are progressing towards that.

The best time is usually when things are starting to get heavy and you just ask them if they want to go somewhere more private with you.

 

[Gamisch]

Slow game = no game.

Urgency is necessary when dealing with( hot) women. Slow game can be done when you have a roster you're happy with and you could care less about her. Any other scenarios means you HAVE TO be a MAN and take the initiative. Generally speaking you have about 8 weeks to pull her in...

But, overall I agree with @Bingo-Player . You see, regardless of how and why you moved back to your parents( which is a blessing if you need it) the hot blonde confronts you with reality. You gotta get your priorities right!!

I remember going out with a hot brunette and the conversation was fire so we stayed longer than I'd expected. But it also cost me way more than I expected and at some point I knew I might not been able to pay the bill...that was one of those moments when I realised I HAD TO stop chasing p00sy (for a while) .

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

Not being snarky, just candid:

I'd prioritize securing a residence of your own over snagging a piece of ass

 

[nicksaiz65]

Slow game = no game.

Urgency is necessary when dealing with( hot) women. Slow game can be done when you have a roster you're happy with and you could care less about her. Any other scenarios means you HAVE TO be a MAN and take the initiative. Generally speaking you have about 8 weeks to pull her in...

But, overall I agree with @Bingo-Player . You see, regardless of how and why you moved back to your parents( which is a blessing if you need it) the hot blonde confronts you with reality. You gotta get your priorities right!!

I remember going out with a hot brunette and the conversation was fire so we stayed longer than I'd expected. But it also cost me way more than I expected and at some point I knew I might not been able to pay the bill...that was one of those moments when I realised I HAD TO stop chasing p00sy (for a while) .

If you don’t mind me asking how long did you have to lock in?

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Having done the hotel thing a few times now, her agreeing to that suggestion is in and of itself a green light for sex. Every time I've gotten us a room (or the one time the girl had the room already), it ended in sex.

That's a good point. Now that I think about it too any time I booked a hotel it led to sex.

Her being closer in the fall probably wouldn't make it any easier

I actually found out she'll be several hours away when she goes to college so it'll be even harder to happen then. Getting a hotel is the only move going forward. But even if we just do it a few times it would be worth it for that young poon.

You could also just invite her over, right? An hour isn't far.

Nah at my folks place I have zero privacy, no chance of that happening.

I've pulled off the hotel/motel thing many times and I've always waited until they agreed...numerous times it was the first time we fvcked.

If they are interested, this will not be an obstacle for 95% of the women and some of them even get turned on by the thought.

Yeah, hotel sex is phenomenal and I do think it's true that if she agrees to come in the first place it's kind of implied she is down.

This isn't a woman its a very young girl who will likely find the idea of going to motel with a random dude she barely knows quite weird
( and rightfully so )

I've had several college-aged chicks come straight to my apartment for the first meetup to fvck. It's not that ununusual. The youngest was 19 and she drove an hour to come over after only texting for a couple days, we didn't even do a video chat.

A halfway decent a hotel is actually a lot safer than meeting at someones home. And when I say halfway decent I mean a proper hotel with a lobby, not one of those cheap motels with those individual, unconnected rooms in a parking lot.

Not being snarky, just candid:
I'd prioritize securing a residence of your own over snagging a piece of ass

OP with all due respect if you're living with your parents beyond the age of 25 women are the absolute least of your worries

There are a few guys on this forum running around chasing tail while their core lives seem shambolic

You gotta get your priorities straight and that means being 100% self sufficent

Own place , own car , own income

Then you can get the Huzz

Of course, this goes without saying and I agree. However it's not like I've been living with them my whole life, it's transitory. In any case, I'm not looking to get into a relationship, just a few bangs or a short term fling at most. Due to my current circumstances, unless a chick is particularly attractive I am not even interested at entertaining the idea in the first place.

Also, I've done the whole "monk mode" thing before when I had more important things to focus on in my life, but after a certain point it starts to feel cope to me. It's not like an occassional bang is going to destablize you or something. There's a difference between chasing tail and being an opportunist.

if an opportunity presents itself, why not go for it? The older I get the few opportunities i'm gonna have to bang chicks this young.

 

[Gamisch]

If you don’t mind me asking how long did you have to lock in?

It took like 5 years . Shyte was a mess. I'm talking about going from a hopeless situation to actually hoarding some wins..

Relationships went terrible . Ironically enough those also got significantly better after I stopped focusing on women and started grinding like a maniac .

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I've thought about this more and i've decided i'm just not going to bother with it. I had about a dozen girls i was talking to and I just completely stopped messaging all of them a few days ago. Some of them were very high interest too but i simply do not care.

It really does feel like a complete waste of time and effort to try to meet women when without your own place, car, job, or stability in general. Like it's actually retarded.

Unless I meet a woman who does all the work for me and pays for everything, i really do think monk mode is the move right now.

I do fear getting rusty and complacent with women, so I think a better idea is to just try to do daytime approaches with no end goal except to flirt, just for the sake of getting my mojo back.

 

[Bigpapa]

It really does feel like a complete waste of time and effort to try to meet women when without your own place, car, job, or stability in general. Like it's actually retarded.

Unless I meet a woman who does all the work for me and pays for everything, i really do think monk mode is the move right now.

I do fear getting rusty and complacent with women, so I think a better idea is to just try to do daytime approaches with no end goal except to flirt, just for the sake of getting my mojo back.

Talking with women ( especially those whom you like ) should not be an issue. Your career / personal life require a different skill set than the one used for talking with women

you can be great with women and be a bum, or you can have a great career and have little to no success with women. Though, ideally you would put more effort in one or the other depending on where the rough patch is. But I think is not an ideal decision to have one stopped and the other one active and vice verse. Should be more you put more effort here or there type of situation.

coming back to your initial question, you mentioned that you own a motorcycle

why you do not take your motorcycle, go to her town grab a coffee and then go for a picnic or similar a bit further away from the town, where usually there is no one and just have sex in nature?

women like the idea of sex in nature / public spaces a lot

this is how most young people get laid, I would get laid in the park back when I was in high school and living with my parents . Nothing beats a bench in the dark and 2 horny high schoolers

 

[BaronOfHair]

@FlexpertHamilton To your overall question:

I no longer employ so-called "slow game"*, haven't for a long time, and it's been my observation that such an approach is highly ineffective when fellas who are 30+ break this particular strategy out. Far more magnetic is the man who declares outright:

"I really have no desire to play games, at both this stage in my life and all points forward. We're going to be lovers or nothing at all"

*If anything, there's an argument to be made that SG is the manner in which WOMEN pursue us... Dressing a bit more revealingly/peppering their speech with more innuendo when they're in the vicinity of a man they desire, posting provocative pics and footage on social media in the hopes that Prince Charming will notice, etc etc

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Talking with women ( especially those whom you like ) should not be an issue. Your career / personal life require a different skill set than the one used for talking with women

you can be great with women and be a bum, or you can have a great career and have little to no success with women. Though, ideally you would put more effort in one or the other depending on where the rough patch is. But I think is not an ideal decision to have one stopped and the other one active and vice verse. Should be more you put more effort here or there type of situation.

Of course, I've always believed this. The idea that if you become successful women will chase you is a cope imo. It is an entirely different skill set. But to me the issue is that it just feels like a waste of time because it's so unimportant to me right now. Plus, I quite simply do not have the money to be spending on dates anyway, I can barely afford gas as it is. If she lives within 5 miles of me and is under 30, that's a different story.

why you do not take your motorcycle, go to her town grab a coffee and then go for a picnic or similar a bit further away from the town, where usually there is no one and just have sex in nature?

that doesn't sound remotely fun to me right now. i've done that sort of thing before at the beach but lately im not into the idea of putting in any effort into dates. basically either come straight to my house or a bar, maybe a hike at most. if the date doesn't go well it doesn't end up being this big investment and waste of time.

 

[Solomon]

From my experience, the shelf life for these things usually end within 2-4 weeks if you don't meet, espeically with a young college chick eventually, they get bored or they meet someone who is in better proximity

An hour motorcycle ride could be a fun weekend trip

 

[Solomon]

I've thought about this more and i've decided i'm just not going to bother with it. I had about a dozen girls i was talking to and I just completely stopped messaging all of them a few days ago. Some of them were very high interest too but i simply do not care.

It really does feel like a complete waste of time and effort to try to meet women when without your own place, car, job, or stability in general. Like it's actually retarded.

Unless I meet a woman who does all the work for me and pays for everything, i really do think monk mode is the move right now.

I do fear getting rusty and complacent with women, so I think a better idea is to just try to do daytime approaches with no end goal except to flirt, just for the sake of getting my mojo back.

Just saw this

OP focusing on getting your own spot and car or at least your own spot, is pivotal. I'm assuming you're 30+
I'm not here to bash you; the economy is rough AF, and everyone I know is going through it
However, not having your own spot is going to be a thorn on your side. Even if you get a chick that's cool with it, there will always be this thing where she keeps her eyes out for someone else or even worse she will use it against you to control the frame of the relationship (Basically you're a hobosexual which never last unless you're super handsome or dating girls waaay below your SMV)


So yeah man focus on getting your life togther these females ain't going nowhere I promise lol

 

[Bigpapa]

that doesn't sound remotely fun to me right now. i've done that sort of thing before at the beach but lately im not into the idea of putting in any effort into dates. basically either come straight to my house or a bar, maybe a hike at most. if the date doesn't go well it doesn't end up being this big investment and waste of time.

Watch out for signs of depression