How do you guys go about playing the slow game

[FlexpertHamilton]

I'm talking to this sexy blonde college chick who lives with her parents about an hour away from me. She is moving back into her college dorms in the fall semester but until then I have to keep this going for several weeks and prevent it from fizzling out.

I just had to move back in with my folks and there is nowhere near enough privacy to pull off anything here. I also don't have a car I only have a motorcycle so no car sex.

We have done some sexting/dirty talk but i try to dial it back so I don't get too thirsty or blow out the sexual tension. She does seem high interest overall.

I think my only move is to suggest getting an Air BnB/hotel with her but don't typically try to pull something like that with a chick unless I've we've already banged since it could be a big waste of $$.

Now that I've typed all this I think I should just let it go lol it's not worth the hassle...

 

[BPH]

Having done the hotel thing a few times now, her agreeing to that suggestion is in and of itself a green light for sex. Every time I've gotten us a room (or the one time the girl had the room already), it ended in sex.

That said, almost every time I've been in the talking stage with a woman for several weeks without sex, it's inevitably fizzled out when we couldn't get face time. Her being closer in the fall probably wouldn't make it any easier either, since she's gonna be surrounded by attractive young dudes who will be inviting her to the top-tier frat parties and whatnot.

If I were you, I would make the room offer, but otherwise I wouldn't put too much thought into maintaining this relationship for a whole month. You could also just invite her over, right? An hour isn't far.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I am just speculating, but after a month of going from being bored and having nothing to do to being surrounded by new responsibilities, new classmates, new experiences, and new suitors, she may naturally become more distracted and you become an after-thought. Unfortunately, this is one of the consequences you have to deal with when you don't have all your ducks lined up in a row.

I think you should still ask her out. Take an Uber, a taxi, or suggest meeting halfway. If she is genuinely attracted to you, I don't think the location will matter as much. There is a reason why, when someone is traveling, it is usually advised to let them hit you up when they are back in town because maintaining something long-distance without a clear direction can easily turn you into just a pen pal.

I would also avoid overthinking the hotel/Airbnb situation. If the attraction is there and the date goes well, the logistics become much easier to solve. Maybe keep the first meet simple and low-pressure rather than making it feel like a big investment upfront.

 

[nicksaiz65]

You could probably keep the financial risk in case she flakes small by getting the cheapest room that’s still clean and private enough that she won’t walk in and immediately get weirded out. Definitely look at recent guest photos and reviews.