"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you deal with women who think you're cooler that what you really are?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I get this a lot.
Low self esteem and poor self image. You've gotta figure out why you don't feel comfortable accepting that they think of you this way.

Btw this is is the #1 killer of most people's satisfaction with their interpersonal relationships in life..simply not being able to accept that they're good enough to be held in high regard by others.
 
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Are you a troll?

Trick question. I already know that you are. But let's see what you have to say.
 

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Low self esteem and poor self image. You've gotta figure out why you don't feel comfortable accepting that they think of you this way.

Btw this is is the #1 killer of most people's satisfaction with their interpersonal relationships in life..simply not being able to accept that they're good enough to be held in high regard by others.
It's crazy, even seeing all the hate in retrospect. But I still don't get it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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btownbuck2012

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It's crazy, even seeing all the hate in retrospect. But I still don't get it.
Still don't get what? You saying you hate yourself?
 
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The answer to your question in my opinion is deal with them to the best of your ability and don't worry about how cool they think you are. And build your confidence up to around the level or a little above the feedback your getting from them.

Sometimes it's hard to gage if your too confident they might read you as arrogant, not confident enough they might read you a as a simp. Then again some women like simps and some like arrogance.
So you win some you loose some it's a numbers game keep spinning plates if you don't want to sleep alone at night.
 

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Dude, YOU decide what type of person you are. There's no reason why you're NOT that cool guy, you just have a belief that tells you otherwise.

Why not just start acting like you're the cool guy she views you as? Do that for long enough and it'll be strange when girls DON'T see you as that kind of guy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just be humble and never let it get to your head. Know who you really are. When they give you compliments, simply say thank you without any expression.
 

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You date them.

That's the whole point of seduction - create the illusion of perfection even though that's not reality.
 

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Dude that's what celebs deal with day to day. High quality problem.
 
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