"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do you deal with women who think you're cooler that what you really are?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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btownbuck2012

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I get this a lot.
Low self esteem and poor self image. You've gotta figure out why you don't feel comfortable accepting that they think of you this way.

Btw this is is the #1 killer of most people's satisfaction with their interpersonal relationships in life..simply not being able to accept that they're good enough to be held in high regard by others.
 
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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Are you a troll?

Trick question. I already know that you are. But let's see what you have to say.
 

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Low self esteem and poor self image. You've gotta figure out why you don't feel comfortable accepting that they think of you this way.

Btw this is is the #1 killer of most people's satisfaction with their interpersonal relationships in life..simply not being able to accept that they're good enough to be held in high regard by others.
It's crazy, even seeing all the hate in retrospect. But I still don't get it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's crazy, even seeing all the hate in retrospect. But I still don't get it.
Still don't get what? You saying you hate yourself?
 
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The answer to your question in my opinion is deal with them to the best of your ability and don't worry about how cool they think you are. And build your confidence up to around the level or a little above the feedback your getting from them.

Sometimes it's hard to gage if your too confident they might read you as arrogant, not confident enough they might read you a as a simp. Then again some women like simps and some like arrogance.
So you win some you loose some it's a numbers game keep spinning plates if you don't want to sleep alone at night.
 

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Dude, YOU decide what type of person you are. There's no reason why you're NOT that cool guy, you just have a belief that tells you otherwise.

Why not just start acting like you're the cool guy she views you as? Do that for long enough and it'll be strange when girls DON'T see you as that kind of guy.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Just be humble and never let it get to your head. Know who you really are. When they give you compliments, simply say thank you without any expression.
 

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You date them.

That's the whole point of seduction - create the illusion of perfection even though that's not reality.
 

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Dude that's what celebs deal with day to day. High quality problem.
 
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