"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How courteous are you with industry workers?

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))

Me: Okay, I’ll take 3 number 1 please….

There goes my attempt at being courteous lol. How courteous do you try to be with restaurant employees? That seems to be a lost art.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))
-The worker may not have heard you

-He/she/whatever pronouns they currently fly under may have replied, and you didn't hear he/she/Zyglxyz

-The drive thru may be AI operated, and thus unable to actually converse with patrons

Similar to a gal not providing a fella her "deets", once he's approached, the possible explanations are myriad. The perks of ruminating on such events for more than 3 minutes are more questionable than The White House's assertion that it's tussle with Iran = A matter of national security
 

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-The worker may not have heard you

-He/she/whatever pronouns they currently fly under may have replied, and you didn't hear he/she/Zyglxyz

-The drive thru may be AI operated, and thus unable to actually converse with patrons

Similar to a gal not providing a fella her "deets", once he's approached, the possible explanations are myriad. The perks of ruminating on such events for more than 3 minutes are more questionable than The White House's assertion that it's tussle with Iran = A matter of national security

Went to Starbucks this morning…they seemed nice, those dudes seemed ideal to start a dialogue with. Drive thrus though, it really depends how you come off and the mood of the workers.
 

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in a distant past i was a service worker when young. i liked it when people would be friendly, very few did that and i always remembered them. a few middle age and older men would give very small tips when they are served (it was not a business that expected any tip). i always remembered those men and gave them much better service (faster, better, and respectfully). almost 100% of the complaints came from middle aged women who would be rude, cheep, and entitled. young men (ahh.. less than 30-40 years old) at that time would be dismissive and arrogant often trying to scam something. young women would usually be polite and professional.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Went to Starbucks this morning…they seemed nice, those dudes seemed ideal to start a dialogue with. Drive thrus though, it really depends how you come off and the mood of the workers.
Ideally you want to have a way to take stock of their mood first.

I just had a relative ask me for my Thanksgiving plans while sending me 2 videos they made in the same text. Now I have to watch these videos first instead of simply telling them "yes, I am coming for Thanksgiving".
 

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It sounds like you are hungry for connection because you are back in America rather than the Philippeans where you felt more like a human being rather than someone who is disrupting someone else's day by trying to exist, lol

Welcome back to America. That's all I can say. It's nothing personal, when women are mean or not being polite back, it just means that don't have the looks. Someone who does has a far different experience than us. If you didn't visit the Phillipeans or get a decent experience there to contrast America experience then you'll think you are a loser here when you are not. It's just not the right environment or social climate where these things get you somewhere with women in another country/culture. Here you are just an annoynace.
 

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))

Me: Okay, I’ll take 3 number 1 please….

There goes my attempt at being courteous lol. How courteous do you try to be with restaurant employees? That seems to be a lost art.
ohh — thought you mean working girls ;) -

ya I’m nice with both , get roasted from retail (industry) girls from time to time- I’m not in USA
 

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Akin to asking:

"Should I commit crimes, on account of the fact that quite a few folks(many of them members or The US government)do so, without ever being apprehended and prosecuted? if so, how many should I commit, and what sort?

Are shoplifing and credit card fraud A-OK, while murder and p-dophilia both steps too far over the line? Or is murder perfectly acceptable, so long as I confine myself to carving up ragamuffins sleeping beneath the nearest overpass, and allow surburbanites making 6 figures or more to remain unmaligned?"

Behave honorably because the planet is a saner place when more of us do so. Whether or not some/many choose to do otherwise is immaterial
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This might be more of a "wrong place, wrong time" thing than anything.

The drivethru is predicated on speed and getting customers through it as fast as possible. They actually have metrics that get tracked for this and likely tell them to not engage in small talk that will extend or waste time.

This would be more apt if you were in a sit down restaurant or even if you walked in and did this at the counter when they weren't super busy.

Drive thru probably isn't the place for that as their focus is getting people in and out expeditiously.
 

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This might be more of a "wrong place, wrong time" thing than anything.

The drivethru is predicated on speed and getting customers through it as fast as possible. They actually have metrics that get tracked for this and likely tell them to not engage in small talk that will extend or waste time.

This would be more apt if you were in a sit down restaurant or even if you walked in and did this at the counter when they weren't super busy.

Drive thru probably isn't the place for that as their focus is getting people in and out expeditiously.
Is this true @Hamurabimbi? You pick up girls all over the place, probably including drive-throughs, lol!
 

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Drive thru is sort of a different animal for reasons already stated. However, how someone treats restaurant and service workers speaks volumes to their character.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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