"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How courteous are you with industry workers?

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))

Me: Okay, I’ll take 3 number 1 please….

There goes my attempt at being courteous lol. How courteous do you try to be with restaurant employees? That seems to be a lost art.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))
-The worker may not have heard you

-He/she/whatever pronouns they currently fly under may have replied, and you didn't hear he/she/Zyglxyz

-The drive thru may be AI operated, and thus unable to actually converse with patrons

Similar to a gal not providing a fella her "deets", once he's approached, the possible explanations are myriad. The perks of ruminating on such events for more than 3 minutes are more questionable than The White House's assertion that it's tussle with Iran = A matter of national security
 

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-The worker may not have heard you

-He/she/whatever pronouns they currently fly under may have replied, and you didn't hear he/she/Zyglxyz

-The drive thru may be AI operated, and thus unable to actually converse with patrons

Similar to a gal not providing a fella her "deets", once he's approached, the possible explanations are myriad. The perks of ruminating on such events for more than 3 minutes are more questionable than The White House's assertion that it's tussle with Iran = A matter of national security

Went to Starbucks this morning…they seemed nice, those dudes seemed ideal to start a dialogue with. Drive thrus though, it really depends how you come off and the mood of the workers.
 

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in a distant past i was a service worker when young. i liked it when people would be friendly, very few did that and i always remembered them. a few middle age and older men would give very small tips when they are served (it was not a business that expected any tip). i always remembered those men and gave them much better service (faster, better, and respectfully). almost 100% of the complaints came from middle aged women who would be rude, cheep, and entitled. young men (ahh.. less than 30-40 years old) at that time would be dismissive and arrogant often trying to scam something. young women would usually be polite and professional.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Went to Starbucks this morning…they seemed nice, those dudes seemed ideal to start a dialogue with. Drive thrus though, it really depends how you come off and the mood of the workers.
Ideally you want to have a way to take stock of their mood first.

I just had a relative ask me for my Thanksgiving plans while sending me 2 videos they made in the same text. Now I have to watch these videos first instead of simply telling them "yes, I am coming for Thanksgiving".
 

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It sounds like you are hungry for connection because you are back in America rather than the Philippeans where you felt more like a human being rather than someone who is disrupting someone else's day by trying to exist, lol

Welcome back to America. That's all I can say. It's nothing personal, when women are mean or not being polite back, it just means that don't have the looks. Someone who does has a far different experience than us. If you didn't visit the Phillipeans or get a decent experience there to contrast America experience then you'll think you are a loser here when you are not. It's just not the right environment or social climate where these things get you somewhere with women in another country/culture. Here you are just an annoynace.
 
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