"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How courteous are you with industry workers?

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))

Me: Okay, I’ll take 3 number 1 please….

There goes my attempt at being courteous lol. How courteous do you try to be with restaurant employees? That seems to be a lost art.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Worker: (( me at a drive thru)) Welcome to Whataburger, May I take your order?

Me: Hey how’s it going?

Worker: ((( silence))
-The worker may not have heard you

-He/she/whatever pronouns they currently fly under may have replied, and you didn't hear he/she/Zyglxyz

-The drive thru may be AI operated, and thus unable to actually converse with patrons

Similar to a gal not providing a fella her "deets", once he's approached, the possible explanations are myriad. The perks of ruminating on such events for more than 3 minutes are more questionable than The White House's assertion that it's tussle with Iran = A matter of national security
 

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-The worker may not have heard you

-He/she/whatever pronouns they currently fly under may have replied, and you didn't hear he/she/Zyglxyz

-The drive thru may be AI operated, and thus unable to actually converse with patrons

Similar to a gal not providing a fella her "deets", once he's approached, the possible explanations are myriad. The perks of ruminating on such events for more than 3 minutes are more questionable than The White House's assertion that it's tussle with Iran = A matter of national security

Went to Starbucks this morning…they seemed nice, those dudes seemed ideal to start a dialogue with. Drive thrus though, it really depends how you come off and the mood of the workers.
 

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You're not being courteous.

You're trying to force them into having a conversation with you.

Assuming other people are eager to start a conversation with you is rude and selfish.

Most retail/fast food workers want to handle customers as easily and as friction-free as possible.
 
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