She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
So is sex an obligation or not?Teflon_Mcgee said:I don't think you should ever deny her sex.
My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.
Likewise, I will never deny her sex.
Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.
At times it is.Francisco d'Anconia said:So is sex an obligation or not?
yup. At times, this comes handy.joekerr31 said:just imagine that your banging that 20 year old check out girl at the grocery store.
jeez. this isn't that complicated.![]()
does that really happen?...the girl asking for sex and the guy saying no?...sounds like it'll never happen between me and my girl!~speed dawg said:Haha yeah I do that alot. Make her understand.
However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:At times it is.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.
REALLY????!!Teflon_Mcgee said:I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex.
REALLY?????!!!!!!Teflon_Mcgee said:Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.
Yeahhhhhhhhhh.....Teflon_Mcgee said:It's never a feeling of obligaton.
Ahhhhh, an obligation just to the woman, got'cha...Teflon_Mcgee said:But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.