"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How can I husband say no ?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
You open your mouth and say "Today I don't want sex."
...and not give a damn whether she's disappointed or not.
Be a man and stand up for what you want.
"I don't want sex today. Deal with it."
Duh.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Teflon_Mcgee
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My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.
Likewise, I will never deny her sex.
Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So is sex an obligation or not?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Teflon_Mcgee
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At times it is.Francisco d'Anconia said:
One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.
Most of the time sex should be mutual. Both partners want it. Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.
But on occassion, one will really be in the mood and one really won't.
Now why isn't one in the mood? In some cases I'd buy an excuse. Mom just died, stomach surgery, violent diahhreia. But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO. You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.
If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.
I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex. It's just that simple. Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.
Fortunately my girl enjoys sex. And I ALWAYS put her sexual pleasure before my own which means she'll always try to do the same.
It's never a feeling of obligaton.
But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.
And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
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REALLY????!!Teflon_Mcgee said:
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Yeahhhhhhhhhh.....Teflon_Mcgee said:
Ahhhhh, an obligation just to the woman, got'cha...Teflon_Mcgee said:
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Simple as that..
It is rare im not up for it, but i wouldnt feel like it had to be done just because she wanted it.
Making a girl wait is cool too, and when it comes around its explosive!!
Just laugh it off and have fun, tease each other. Its all good..
Mindtrust
