How can I husband say no ?

[Mustache]

How can a husband say: "Today I don't want sex"
without disappointing her ?

 

[Vulpine]

You don't.

You open your mouth and say "Today I don't want sex."
...and not give a damn whether she's disappointed or not.

Be a man and stand up for what you want.

"I don't want sex today. Deal with it."

Duh.

 

[speed dawg]

Haha yeah I do that alot. Make her understand.

However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.

 

[joekerr31]

just imagine that your banging that 20 year old check out girl at the grocery store.

jeez. this isn't that complicated.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Just ask for a raincheck. You probably give her some other form of intimacy though so that she won't completely feel as if you are loosing interest in her.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I don't think you should ever deny her sex.
My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.

Likewise, I will never deny her sex.

Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't think you should ever deny her sex.
My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.

Likewise, I will never deny her sex.

Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.

So is sex an obligation or not?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

So is sex an obligation or not?

At times it is.

One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.

Most of the time sex should be mutual. Both partners want it. Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.

But on occassion, one will really be in the mood and one really won't.

Now why isn't one in the mood? In some cases I'd buy an excuse. Mom just died, stomach surgery, violent diahhreia. But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO. You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.

If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.

I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex. It's just that simple. Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.

Fortunately my girl enjoys sex. And I ALWAYS put her sexual pleasure before my own which means she'll always try to do the same.

It's never a feeling of obligaton.
But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.
And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.

 

[amoka]

just imagine that your banging that 20 year old check out girl at the grocery store.

jeez. this isn't that complicated.

yup. At times, this comes handy.

 

[vagrant]

Haha yeah I do that alot. Make her understand.

However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.

does that really happen?...the girl asking for sex and the guy saying no?...sounds like it'll never happen between me and my girl!~

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

At times it is.

Really?

One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.

Really?

Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.

Really?

But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO.

Really?

You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.

Really?

If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.

Really?

I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex.

REALLY????!!

Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.

REALLY?????!!!!!!

It's never a feeling of obligaton.

Yeahhhhhhhhhh.....

But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.

Ahhhhh, an obligation just to the woman, got'cha...

And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.

Really?

 

[Mindtrust]

If she asks and i dont want sex, then she aint getting any sex.

Simple as that..

It is rare im not up for it, but i wouldnt feel like it had to be done just because she wanted it.

Making a girl wait is cool too, and when it comes around its explosive!!

Just laugh it off and have fun, tease each other. Its all good..

Mindtrust

 

[penkitten]

say you have a headache. thats married talk for "not now dear".