"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
You open your mouth and say "Today I don't want sex."
...and not give a damn whether she's disappointed or not.
Be a man and stand up for what you want.
"I don't want sex today. Deal with it."
Duh.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Teflon_Mcgee
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My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.
Likewise, I will never deny her sex.
Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So is sex an obligation or not?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Teflon_Mcgee
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At times it is.Francisco d'Anconia said:
One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.
Most of the time sex should be mutual. Both partners want it. Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.
But on occassion, one will really be in the mood and one really won't.
Now why isn't one in the mood? In some cases I'd buy an excuse. Mom just died, stomach surgery, violent diahhreia. But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO. You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.
If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.
I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex. It's just that simple. Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.
Fortunately my girl enjoys sex. And I ALWAYS put her sexual pleasure before my own which means she'll always try to do the same.
It's never a feeling of obligaton.
But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.
And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:
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REALLY????!!Teflon_Mcgee said:
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Yeahhhhhhhhhh.....Teflon_Mcgee said:
Ahhhhh, an obligation just to the woman, got'cha...Teflon_Mcgee said:
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Simple as that..
It is rare im not up for it, but i wouldnt feel like it had to be done just because she wanted it.
Making a girl wait is cool too, and when it comes around its explosive!!
Just laugh it off and have fun, tease each other. Its all good..
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