"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How can I husband say no ?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
You open your mouth and say "Today I don't want sex."
...and not give a damn whether she's disappointed or not.
Be a man and stand up for what you want.
"I don't want sex today. Deal with it."
Duh.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Teflon_Mcgee
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My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.
Likewise, I will never deny her sex.
Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So is sex an obligation or not?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Teflon_Mcgee
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At times it is.Francisco d'Anconia said:
One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.
Most of the time sex should be mutual. Both partners want it. Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.
But on occassion, one will really be in the mood and one really won't.
Now why isn't one in the mood? In some cases I'd buy an excuse. Mom just died, stomach surgery, violent diahhreia. But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO. You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.
If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.
I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex. It's just that simple. Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.
Fortunately my girl enjoys sex. And I ALWAYS put her sexual pleasure before my own which means she'll always try to do the same.
It's never a feeling of obligaton.
But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.
And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
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Ahhhhh, an obligation just to the woman, got'cha...Teflon_Mcgee said:
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Simple as that..
It is rare im not up for it, but i wouldnt feel like it had to be done just because she wanted it.
Making a girl wait is cool too, and when it comes around its explosive!!
Just laugh it off and have fun, tease each other. Its all good..
Mindtrust
