"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How can I husband say no ?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
You open your mouth and say "Today I don't want sex."
...and not give a damn whether she's disappointed or not.
Be a man and stand up for what you want.
"I don't want sex today. Deal with it."
Duh.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
However, I do understand that it's not ALL about me in a relationship. So, dammit, I make sacrifices and fukk her sometimes even when I don't want to. My life sucks so bad.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Teflon_Mcgee
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My girl knows better than to ever deny me sex.
Likewise, I will never deny her sex.
Unless your wife is a 400pound beast. Then it's okay.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So is sex an obligation or not?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Teflon_Mcgee
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At times it is.Francisco d'Anconia said:
One of the "should be" benefits of a relationship is that you have a guaranteed source of sex.
Most of the time sex should be mutual. Both partners want it. Other times only one will be in the mood and then should try to seduce the other.
But on occassion, one will really be in the mood and one really won't.
Now why isn't one in the mood? In some cases I'd buy an excuse. Mom just died, stomach surgery, violent diahhreia. But if "I just don't feel like it" is the best excuse then NO. You are obligated to sexually gratify your relationship partner.
If you're not obligated to please them then they should be able to get it from someone who will give it.
I don't know about everybody else, but I NEED sex. It's just that simple. Some people might need coddling or conversation. But for me, sex is a basic need.
Fortunately my girl enjoys sex. And I ALWAYS put her sexual pleasure before my own which means she'll always try to do the same.
It's never a feeling of obligaton.
But I still have made it clear to her that she is obligated to give it if I need it, as long as we are in a commited relationship.
And if she won't she knows that we will not be together or we will have an open relationship so I can get it when I want.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
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REALLY????!!Teflon_Mcgee said:
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Yeahhhhhhhhhh.....Teflon_Mcgee said:
Ahhhhh, an obligation just to the woman, got'cha...Teflon_Mcgee said:
Really?Teflon_Mcgee said:
Simple as that..
It is rare im not up for it, but i wouldnt feel like it had to be done just because she wanted it.
Making a girl wait is cool too, and when it comes around its explosive!!
Just laugh it off and have fun, tease each other. Its all good..
Mindtrust
