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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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Hmm, strange texts from a lady I've only seen two times - advice needed

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Met this lady on OLD, she 29. She looks like her pic, but something seemed a bit off, and I cannot figure out what. So she texts me and keep in mind, this is only the second date thus far. Here's some of her texts:

I like to share my feelings about how I want to kiss you and feel you next to me. And it's nice to hear it too

I like to share how badly I miss you and I like when you reciprocate

And I want to tell you how badly I need you in my life

U can lead me on for 3 weeks or longer. I don't need to wait for a man if he's not waiting for me. Spent too many nights alone. It's hard for me.

I guess I should be smart and until I know I'll do whatever I want. I'm not getting younger.

It's nice talk to talk with someone who I know is interested. If I don't know then I'll probably desire talking with someone in which I do know. Kool.

Sending love

But give me your body first. sharing your heart takes time

I need sex



??? I'm dumbfounded. Not sure I want to see her again. Seems a bit intense. No?
 

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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She actually found my sibling on Facebook, not my account on our first date. Today, she messaged me asking me for my address as she wanted to come over, I said I was away. It just seems something is missing from her. Normally, I'd just at the opportunity for sex, but something seems off. Look at those texts. Just weird. Or am I wrong?
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She actually found my sibling on Facebook, not my account on our first date. Today, she messaged me asking me for my address as she wanted to come over, I said I was away. It just seems something is missing from her. Normally, I'd just at the opportunity for sex, but something seems off. Look at those texts. Just weird. Or am I wrong?
Nah your not wrong, follow your gut, and I would assume she was extremely desperate or a crazy ass woman, bang her if she looks good then exist because it sounds like she s the type to become a stalker.
 

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Sounds like she's kind of unhinged. Meet her for a third date in a public place and if she seems alright go back to her place. Continue like that until you know if she's trustworthy or not.
 

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She's not relationship material. She wants her urges satisfied and she is being extremely blunt about it.

Keep in mind, that she is absolutely fishing for the same thing in other places as well.

Not a quality girl here thats for sure.

It's your choice whatever you decide to do, listen to your gut, it is telling you already that something is off about her.
 

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You wouldn't get it easier than that,,Lol , just don't disclose to her where you're living,,, lol
Lmao...I give up. She hands it to him on a platter and OP is "confused". SMFH.
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lmao...I give up. She hands it to him on a platter and OP is "confused". SMFH.
OP just doesn't want to come home to his pets boiling on the stove

OP follow your gut. If you want to smash, arrange a date closer to her place, take get out, free her, back to her place.

She's probably a bit nuts tho
 

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OP just doesn't want to come home to his pets boiling on the stove

OP follow your gut. If you want to smash, arrange a date closer to her place, take get out, free her, back to her place.

She's probably a bit nuts tho
I'm not saying make her your wife. Im saying just lay her out a few times.
 

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Did y’all miss the part where she texted him that she wants to tell him how badly she needs him in her life... after 1 or 2 dates...?

Lol I would be wary if I was OP.

That being said, I’d still smash at HER place and never take it any further
 

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She´s crazy. Do not give her you address under any circunstances. Pump & dump, ghost, no contact.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Did y’all miss the part where she texted him that she wants to tell him how badly she needs him in her life... after 1 or 2 dates...?

Lol I would be wary if I was OP.

That being said, I’d still smash at HER place and never take it any further
I didnt miss it, I just would fvck her and make sure she doesn't know where i live
 

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But give me your body first. sharing your heart takes time

I need sex

Seems a bit intense. No?
Yes, it’s an intense seduction by sex. The thing is though, that women who use this very direct tactic have very little else to personally offer. Up your screening level with this one, or regard her as nothing more than a quick lay…
 
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That is intense for only 1-2 dates but I've seen it happen. Dated a girl for a while like that and it ended up okay. I vote date and smash, but like others have said keep your address away from her until you can better gauge her. Though she should probably tone it down, it's possible she just has high interest level and isn't thinking about how she's coming across.
 
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In my opinion. Nothing more. You didn’t act on it right. If those text messages are in chronological order.
This:
“I like to share my feelings about how I want to kiss you and feel you next to me. And it's nice to hear it too”
Means you better fuk me already.

The more you delayed the more she got spun out. This makes them seem desperate. She’s not. She’s excited about you.
Pull the trigger or die it off.
No sense trashing her. Do no harm. Either you want her or you don’t.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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