"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

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Hmm, strange texts from a lady I've only seen two times - advice needed

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Met this lady on OLD, she 29. She looks like her pic, but something seemed a bit off, and I cannot figure out what. So she texts me and keep in mind, this is only the second date thus far. Here's some of her texts:

I like to share my feelings about how I want to kiss you and feel you next to me. And it's nice to hear it too

I like to share how badly I miss you and I like when you reciprocate

And I want to tell you how badly I need you in my life

U can lead me on for 3 weeks or longer. I don't need to wait for a man if he's not waiting for me. Spent too many nights alone. It's hard for me.

I guess I should be smart and until I know I'll do whatever I want. I'm not getting younger.

It's nice talk to talk with someone who I know is interested. If I don't know then I'll probably desire talking with someone in which I do know. Kool.

Sending love

But give me your body first. sharing your heart takes time

I need sex



??? I'm dumbfounded. Not sure I want to see her again. Seems a bit intense. No?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She actually found my sibling on Facebook, not my account on our first date. Today, she messaged me asking me for my address as she wanted to come over, I said I was away. It just seems something is missing from her. Normally, I'd just at the opportunity for sex, but something seems off. Look at those texts. Just weird. Or am I wrong?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She actually found my sibling on Facebook, not my account on our first date. Today, she messaged me asking me for my address as she wanted to come over, I said I was away. It just seems something is missing from her. Normally, I'd just at the opportunity for sex, but something seems off. Look at those texts. Just weird. Or am I wrong?
Nah your not wrong, follow your gut, and I would assume she was extremely desperate or a crazy ass woman, bang her if she looks good then exist because it sounds like she s the type to become a stalker.
 

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Sounds like she's kind of unhinged. Meet her for a third date in a public place and if she seems alright go back to her place. Continue like that until you know if she's trustworthy or not.
 

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She's not relationship material. She wants her urges satisfied and she is being extremely blunt about it.

Keep in mind, that she is absolutely fishing for the same thing in other places as well.

Not a quality girl here thats for sure.

It's your choice whatever you decide to do, listen to your gut, it is telling you already that something is off about her.
 

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You wouldn't get it easier than that,,Lol , just don't disclose to her where you're living,,, lol
Lmao...I give up. She hands it to him on a platter and OP is "confused". SMFH.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lmao...I give up. She hands it to him on a platter and OP is "confused". SMFH.
OP just doesn't want to come home to his pets boiling on the stove

OP follow your gut. If you want to smash, arrange a date closer to her place, take get out, free her, back to her place.

She's probably a bit nuts tho
 

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OP just doesn't want to come home to his pets boiling on the stove

OP follow your gut. If you want to smash, arrange a date closer to her place, take get out, free her, back to her place.

She's probably a bit nuts tho
I'm not saying make her your wife. Im saying just lay her out a few times.
 

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Did y’all miss the part where she texted him that she wants to tell him how badly she needs him in her life... after 1 or 2 dates...?

Lol I would be wary if I was OP.

That being said, I’d still smash at HER place and never take it any further
 

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She´s crazy. Do not give her you address under any circunstances. Pump & dump, ghost, no contact.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Did y’all miss the part where she texted him that she wants to tell him how badly she needs him in her life... after 1 or 2 dates...?

Lol I would be wary if I was OP.

That being said, I’d still smash at HER place and never take it any further
I didnt miss it, I just would fvck her and make sure she doesn't know where i live
 

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But give me your body first. sharing your heart takes time

I need sex

Seems a bit intense. No?
Yes, it’s an intense seduction by sex. The thing is though, that women who use this very direct tactic have very little else to personally offer. Up your screening level with this one, or regard her as nothing more than a quick lay…
 
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That is intense for only 1-2 dates but I've seen it happen. Dated a girl for a while like that and it ended up okay. I vote date and smash, but like others have said keep your address away from her until you can better gauge her. Though she should probably tone it down, it's possible she just has high interest level and isn't thinking about how she's coming across.
 
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In my opinion. Nothing more. You didn’t act on it right. If those text messages are in chronological order.
This:
“I like to share my feelings about how I want to kiss you and feel you next to me. And it's nice to hear it too”
Means you better fuk me already.

The more you delayed the more she got spun out. This makes them seem desperate. She’s not. She’s excited about you.
Pull the trigger or die it off.
No sense trashing her. Do no harm. Either you want her or you don’t.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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