Heartbroken over a woman that I wasn't really into

[ScottKayman]

Bit of a wierd one, I was with this woman for a few months. If I'm going to be honest I wasn't really in to her but kept the realtionship going because we had amazing sex together. Anyway, she finished it the other day saying I obviosuly wasn't in to her which is fair enough. The problem is now I feel like I really want her. wtf! Why do I feel heartbroken over a woman that I wasn't really into and now feel like I deperately want her back? I know if we did get back together I would probably go back to feeling like I wasn't into her again.
What's going on here?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Your ego took a hit and you aren't in control anymore.

 

[7onriverI f]

your into her.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

What's going on here?

DO you really want her back? Or do you feel something else?(Guilt?)

Maybe, for the time being, you had all you wanted from a woman. Great sex, fun, good company..... now its gone and the alternative is no sex, a quiet home and maybe lonelyness?

 

[ScottKayman]

DO you really want her back? Or do you feel something else?(Guilt?)

I feel like I want her back. But maybe that just my mind playing tricks on me. What if we got back together and I felt the same as before?

 

[Atom Smasher]

She was a drug. You are experiencing sudden withdrawal.

 

[Romanemp22]

People want what they cant have. Always have been that way

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Your ego took a hit and you aren't in control anymore.

Ego can be a major b1tch. The good thing about it, is the ego can be reorganized to require different things and not need others.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

DO you really want her back? Or do you feel something else?(Guilt?)

Maybe, for the time being, you had all you wanted from a woman. Great sex, fun, good company..... now its gone and the alternative is no sex, a quiet home and maybe lonelyness?

Now SHE is gone. The alternative is one of the millions of more compatible ladies that exist.

 

[ScottKayman]

Ego can be a major b1tch. The good thing about it, is the ego can be reorganized to require different things and not need others.

@mrgoodstuff How do you do that?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

@mrgoodstuff How do you do that?

Time. Once your ego gets crushed... You have to start over. So when you start over you adjust your values. In my situation, I learned that being more honest with myself yielded more strength, but it takes time to develop. However that foundation does not shake apart easily since it's not built on lies... If you are a man whose going to have interactions with women, you have to be honest with yourself about what's good for you, but also what the REALITY in the market has been for the last 10 years... So we can't reorg for a "unicorn" which does not exist. We have to partake in some of the stuff that's really there, but avoiding some of the ones that we know aren't good for us, or minimizing our damage.

 

[samspade]

People want what they cant have. Always have been that way

Exactly. Adults are basically big children.

 

[Lookatu]

All valid points above. You will continue feeling like this until you find another girl. Then the previous one will be nothing but a spec of dust to you most likely.