SoSuaveDude
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What are some hood valentines day gifts? should I mail a letter? And if I do, what is an inexpensive gift I can get a casual gf?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
And you are a pimp? Wow, must be odd being a 14 year old boy these days.Pimp-sicle said:Username definitely doesn't match the question.....
PIMP
Spank off into a plastic sandwich bag and write I love you on the front of it. Put it in the mail.SoSuaveDude said:What are some hood valentines day gifts? should I mail a letter? And if I do, what is an inexpensive gift I can get a casual gf?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Works 2 out of 3 times...FactDiaforetikos said:Do the Naked Man!!
^ Not this.BBbardot said:HA my bf just sent me that vid with a happy valentines day (but i wouldn't send it to a casual girl)
and i think it's an amazing V-day giftamazing live
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mi_b0M5LTbE
he also told me we'll have an amazing week-end ( we can only see each other this week end)
god I'm in love with a perfect guy. He is manly, funny, shamless ( and not always talking about being homo or not like some poeple on this forum which is suspect), strong, show his feeling only to his very close friend and me, plays rugby and border line professional level. Is smart as hell and successfull in finance. Educated, well read, well traveled, opened, economically conservative and socially liberal, did I say strong? phisically strong, and mentally. Yet totally nuts and not scared of getting out of the box, able to send me a video of "my love" live and perfectly mean it. Was very hard to get cause not a relationship guy at all usually but amazing, amazing guy.
oh and his parents love me and my parents especially my mom have suspectly strongly positive feelings toward him^^ like if i didn't marry him they would adopt him.
sorry i had to let it out somewhere, i'll get a hold of myself i promise and I don't know, it's the valentine spirit. Althought maybe it can help you see what makes a girl crazy about you...?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
haharushing dude 123 said:Works 2 out of 3 times...Fact
Field tested it? I wanted to do that with a date this weekrushing dude 123 said:Works 2 out of 3 times...Fact
SoSuaveDude said:Forgive me guys but I went AFC!
I got this girl (who I now believe is an AW) a:
-a burned vday type music cd
-a card
-a Teddy bear
-a box of chocalates
-and a handwritten afc poem (smh)
This was all about 15 bucks, and she bought me something of equal price before so I thought hey... why not! Turned out to be a huge fail. The girl messages sayin thanks sweetie and we'll talk later... this bitc* never called and quite frankly seems to dig me until I give her too much attention. Let this be a lesson that AW's are a waste of time, and that most girls like being treated like s*it!
I'm a bit bitter but I'll get over it lol.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.