"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Going to meet that cute 49 yr old teacher tonight. How to keep frame?
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- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She already told you to move on. Don't be a textbuddy, you let her **** up your mind
Then why does she send me unsolicited text messages then with cute pics? Trying to tease me? She should just fvck me now lol then.
Yeah... to tease you and to stroke her ego. She ****s with your brain. Seems like she got you where she want to. Save your dignitiy
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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To keep you on the hook. The items being traded are attention and sex. You keep shelling out attention, yet are getting no sex in return. In doing so you devalue your manhood and she knows this very well. Joke is on you!
Her best friend that I met that night knows about me too cause they talk. Why would she waste energy like that though. So I want sex from her. I'll give her the attention she needs but just give me some occasional sex at least.
MrWood
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Spot on. That's how you get friendzoned.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well I'm almost 14 years younger. I mean obviously there is something she likes in me to keep talking to me and sending me cute pics. Minus all this, what is the best way to escalate things? I feel attraction to her. Honestly, I do. She's really cute.
So even if they look like melania trump you wouldn't?
Really pissed now. Low smv chick 14 years older let's me down after teasing me. I'm about to just give up on ever getting married in my life. Worked on her for an hour trying to convince her otherwise. Should I hangout ad friends with her still as she suggested?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Your desperation is really pathetic even to a woman 15 years older that has no walls left
So what should I have done in this situation
MrWood
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we never saw any indication of her teasing you or leading you on. All of this was in your head.
you should have walked the other way... weeks ago.
She would send me selfies almost every day
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I'm going to side with you on this one. Her behavior of sending daily photos of herself is not what platonic male/female "friends" do. You know this and so does she.
It's not so much that she intentionally lead you own. It was more vanity and disregard on her part (she was more consumed with getting attention than risking ... sending out a mixed message).
I see no way that this is salvageable. If you want to hang out with her ... knowing that there will be no romantic/secksual outcome, then that's your choice.
Personally, I think you should try to hang out with her. I say this because it'll be good male/female interaction experience for you. You'll have no anxiety because you already know that there will no 'exciting' outcome. Then, when you do meet someone that seems more 'promising' you'll have a little bit of recent male/female interaction experience behind you that could be helpful.
If you do decide to hang out with her, be prepared. Once she becomes involved with someone, I can almost guarantee that you'll become invisible to her (that's the way most women are).
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.