"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Going to meet that cute 49 yr old teacher tonight. How to keep frame?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She already told you to move on. Don't be a textbuddy, you let her **** up your mind
Then why does she send me unsolicited text messages then with cute pics? Trying to tease me? She should just fvck me now lol then.
Yeah... to tease you and to stroke her ego. She ****s with your brain. Seems like she got you where she want to. Save your dignitiy
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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To keep you on the hook. The items being traded are attention and sex. You keep shelling out attention, yet are getting no sex in return. In doing so you devalue your manhood and she knows this very well. Joke is on you!
Her best friend that I met that night knows about me too cause they talk. Why would she waste energy like that though. So I want sex from her. I'll give her the attention she needs but just give me some occasional sex at least.
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Spot on. That's how you get friendzoned.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well I'm almost 14 years younger. I mean obviously there is something she likes in me to keep talking to me and sending me cute pics. Minus all this, what is the best way to escalate things? I feel attraction to her. Honestly, I do. She's really cute.
So even if they look like melania trump you wouldn't?
Really pissed now. Low smv chick 14 years older let's me down after teasing me. I'm about to just give up on ever getting married in my life. Worked on her for an hour trying to convince her otherwise. Should I hangout ad friends with her still as she suggested?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Your desperation is really pathetic even to a woman 15 years older that has no walls left
So what should I have done in this situation
MrWood
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we never saw any indication of her teasing you or leading you on. All of this was in your head.
you should have walked the other way... weeks ago.
She would send me selfies almost every day
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I'm going to side with you on this one. Her behavior of sending daily photos of herself is not what platonic male/female "friends" do. You know this and so does she.
It's not so much that she intentionally lead you own. It was more vanity and disregard on her part (she was more consumed with getting attention than risking ... sending out a mixed message).
I see no way that this is salvageable. If you want to hang out with her ... knowing that there will be no romantic/secksual outcome, then that's your choice.
Personally, I think you should try to hang out with her. I say this because it'll be good male/female interaction experience for you. You'll have no anxiety because you already know that there will no 'exciting' outcome. Then, when you do meet someone that seems more 'promising' you'll have a little bit of recent male/female interaction experience behind you that could be helpful.
If you do decide to hang out with her, be prepared. Once she becomes involved with someone, I can almost guarantee that you'll become invisible to her (that's the way most women are).
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.