She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well said. I don't see what the problem is.nyc123 said:well do YOU want to use a condom?
if you don't, then dont use a condom.
if you do, then insist on using a condom. if she says no, then don't have sex with her.
Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
its usually number 2, tread carefully opchristoff522 said:Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.
1. She's allergic to latex
2. She wants to hook a guy by getting pregnant
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is the best answer you will get. If you insist then she has no choice but to go along with it.Mike32ct said:3. In the heat of the moment, she just doesn't care.
A lot of chicks will just go with "what feels good" in the heat of the moment. It's crazy, but very common.
Just put the condom on anyway. If she's horny enough, she'll go with that. If she insists on raw and you don't want to, then don't have sex with her.
Then you are not a good negotiator. If you can't convince a girl to have sex with a condom, you got bigger problems. No condom "In the moment of passion" is a emotional decision, and we all know how well emotional decisions turn out.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
VladPatton said:No condom? Awesome...tonsil bang her till your lower back is numb and locks up on you. Give her a chin full of milk and jet on out the door like a thief in a cop's home.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.