Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well said. I don't see what the problem is.nyc123 said:well do YOU want to use a condom?
if you don't, then dont use a condom.
if you do, then insist on using a condom. if she says no, then don't have sex with her.
Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
its usually number 2, tread carefully opchristoff522 said:Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.
1. She's allergic to latex
2. She wants to hook a guy by getting pregnant
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
This is the best answer you will get. If you insist then she has no choice but to go along with it.Mike32ct said:3. In the heat of the moment, she just doesn't care.
A lot of chicks will just go with "what feels good" in the heat of the moment. It's crazy, but very common.
Just put the condom on anyway. If she's horny enough, she'll go with that. If she insists on raw and you don't want to, then don't have sex with her.
Then you are not a good negotiator. If you can't convince a girl to have sex with a condom, you got bigger problems. No condom "In the moment of passion" is a emotional decision, and we all know how well emotional decisions turn out.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
VladPatton said:No condom? Awesome...tonsil bang her till your lower back is numb and locks up on you. Give her a chin full of milk and jet on out the door like a thief in a cop's home.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.