Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well said. I don't see what the problem is.nyc123 said:well do YOU want to use a condom?
if you don't, then dont use a condom.
if you do, then insist on using a condom. if she says no, then don't have sex with her.
Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
its usually number 2, tread carefully opchristoff522 said:Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.
1. She's allergic to latex
2. She wants to hook a guy by getting pregnant
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is the best answer you will get. If you insist then she has no choice but to go along with it.Mike32ct said:3. In the heat of the moment, she just doesn't care.
A lot of chicks will just go with "what feels good" in the heat of the moment. It's crazy, but very common.
Just put the condom on anyway. If she's horny enough, she'll go with that. If she insists on raw and you don't want to, then don't have sex with her.
Then you are not a good negotiator. If you can't convince a girl to have sex with a condom, you got bigger problems. No condom "In the moment of passion" is a emotional decision, and we all know how well emotional decisions turn out.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
VladPatton said:No condom? Awesome...tonsil bang her till your lower back is numb and locks up on you. Give her a chin full of milk and jet on out the door like a thief in a cop's home.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.