Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well said. I don't see what the problem is.nyc123 said:well do YOU want to use a condom?
if you don't, then dont use a condom.
if you do, then insist on using a condom. if she says no, then don't have sex with her.
Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
its usually number 2, tread carefully opchristoff522 said:Theres two reasons a girl wouldn't want to.
1. She's allergic to latex
2. She wants to hook a guy by getting pregnant
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is the best answer you will get. If you insist then she has no choice but to go along with it.Mike32ct said:3. In the heat of the moment, she just doesn't care.
A lot of chicks will just go with "what feels good" in the heat of the moment. It's crazy, but very common.
Just put the condom on anyway. If she's horny enough, she'll go with that. If she insists on raw and you don't want to, then don't have sex with her.
Then you are not a good negotiator. If you can't convince a girl to have sex with a condom, you got bigger problems. No condom "In the moment of passion" is a emotional decision, and we all know how well emotional decisions turn out.mangotot said:Just before sex I whip out the condom and the girls says 'No I don't like condom. I want to do it without'. There does not seem any room for negotiation, so what do I do?
VladPatton said:No condom? Awesome...tonsil bang her till your lower back is numb and locks up on you. Give her a chin full of milk and jet on out the door like a thief in a cop's home.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.