Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girl says her best friend is a gay bloke
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He might not be gay, might just be a male friend that she occasionally bangs. But they aren't exclusive. She let you know she's available.
Prodoge
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In that case he is not really gay is he ? Lmao
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Prodoge
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I wasn't planning on being disrespectful just because he likes getting his @sshole expanded occasionally. That's his choice not mine.
I wanted to know if there is something out of the ordinary with a girl who has a gay guy as best friend and not another girl.
Well for one dont make snarky comments like that about him. That makes you look brutish. If you have secret reservations about homosexuals keep them to yourself.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
The OP's girl is probably just feeling him out to see if he hates gay people. I think the right answer is to say, "Cool. We should all hang out sometime." And that is the best way to make your own judgment of the guy, meeting him in person. As alluded to earlier, sexuality is a spectrum. There are a lot of bi guys. But there are also gay guys who are never going to be attracted to a woman.
My ex wife had one of the latter, a childhood friend who really did sound like a woman on the phone. I was always nice to him. Years later, she and I were fighting because she had gained a lot of weight. All of her female friends said I was an assh0le. The gay guy was the only one who took my side. "Girl, this is NOT what he signed up for" was what he said to her. She took that advice and went on a diet.
Gonna be honest with you. If anything the only red flag is that you care enough to try to play detective about this
Even if it did mean something, who cares? It's just another girl. You'll find out more about her when she's in your bed
Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
Or, another theory is: they have sex with the Alpha's to get their physical desires supplied and then the gay friends could be like the Betas that suplies their needs of attention and emotional intimacy. It's really an idea, not guessing that this is the right one.
If anyone have some idea about that, share please. I would like to hear what you think about it.
A girl who has a gayboy best friend is a major no no.
Firstly, yes you have to question why she doesn't have a female as a best friend. Does she not make good relationships with her own sex? why? is it because other women don't like her? she doesn't like other women?
Secondly, a gay will corrupt her mind. A woman who starts hanging out with gay boys changes. She doesn't have the same mind or personality that she had before meeting the gay boy. She will become more liberal. More hedonist. Maybe even start speaking in gay language when she's with them. I wouldn't really fear that she'd sleep with them as most "out" gays are simply gay degenerates (no biness). It's the mind, personality and values that you would worry about.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Women in social circles are very catty and talk behind each other’s backs even if they are good friends. Gay men are very fluid and easy going, but still have the male instinct of being direct when the situation calls for it. Most women appreciate it as gay men can call them out on their bs, rather than just nod and agree with the woman when she’s saying ridiculous things about the male. Think of it as... best of both worlds.
If you’re worried about her gay bestie having sex with her, than you have other issues you need resolve within yourself.