"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girl says her best friend is a gay bloke
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He might not be gay, might just be a male friend that she occasionally bangs. But they aren't exclusive. She let you know she's available.
Prodoge
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In that case he is not really gay is he ? Lmao
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Prodoge
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I wasn't planning on being disrespectful just because he likes getting his @sshole expanded occasionally. That's his choice not mine.
I wanted to know if there is something out of the ordinary with a girl who has a gay guy as best friend and not another girl.
Well for one dont make snarky comments like that about him. That makes you look brutish. If you have secret reservations about homosexuals keep them to yourself.
Bokanovsky
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
The OP's girl is probably just feeling him out to see if he hates gay people. I think the right answer is to say, "Cool. We should all hang out sometime." And that is the best way to make your own judgment of the guy, meeting him in person. As alluded to earlier, sexuality is a spectrum. There are a lot of bi guys. But there are also gay guys who are never going to be attracted to a woman.
My ex wife had one of the latter, a childhood friend who really did sound like a woman on the phone. I was always nice to him. Years later, she and I were fighting because she had gained a lot of weight. All of her female friends said I was an assh0le. The gay guy was the only one who took my side. "Girl, this is NOT what he signed up for" was what he said to her. She took that advice and went on a diet.
Gonna be honest with you. If anything the only red flag is that you care enough to try to play detective about this
Even if it did mean something, who cares? It's just another girl. You'll find out more about her when she's in your bed
Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
Or, another theory is: they have sex with the Alpha's to get their physical desires supplied and then the gay friends could be like the Betas that suplies their needs of attention and emotional intimacy. It's really an idea, not guessing that this is the right one.
If anyone have some idea about that, share please. I would like to hear what you think about it.
A girl who has a gayboy best friend is a major no no.
Firstly, yes you have to question why she doesn't have a female as a best friend. Does she not make good relationships with her own sex? why? is it because other women don't like her? she doesn't like other women?
Secondly, a gay will corrupt her mind. A woman who starts hanging out with gay boys changes. She doesn't have the same mind or personality that she had before meeting the gay boy. She will become more liberal. More hedonist. Maybe even start speaking in gay language when she's with them. I wouldn't really fear that she'd sleep with them as most "out" gays are simply gay degenerates (no biness). It's the mind, personality and values that you would worry about.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Women in social circles are very catty and talk behind each other’s backs even if they are good friends. Gay men are very fluid and easy going, but still have the male instinct of being direct when the situation calls for it. Most women appreciate it as gay men can call them out on their bs, rather than just nod and agree with the woman when she’s saying ridiculous things about the male. Think of it as... best of both worlds.
If you’re worried about her gay bestie having sex with her, than you have other issues you need resolve within yourself.