"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Girl says her best friend is a gay bloke
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He might not be gay, might just be a male friend that she occasionally bangs. But they aren't exclusive. She let you know she's available.
Prodoge
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In that case he is not really gay is he ? Lmao
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Prodoge
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I wasn't planning on being disrespectful just because he likes getting his @sshole expanded occasionally. That's his choice not mine.
I wanted to know if there is something out of the ordinary with a girl who has a gay guy as best friend and not another girl.
Well for one dont make snarky comments like that about him. That makes you look brutish. If you have secret reservations about homosexuals keep them to yourself.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
The OP's girl is probably just feeling him out to see if he hates gay people. I think the right answer is to say, "Cool. We should all hang out sometime." And that is the best way to make your own judgment of the guy, meeting him in person. As alluded to earlier, sexuality is a spectrum. There are a lot of bi guys. But there are also gay guys who are never going to be attracted to a woman.
My ex wife had one of the latter, a childhood friend who really did sound like a woman on the phone. I was always nice to him. Years later, she and I were fighting because she had gained a lot of weight. All of her female friends said I was an assh0le. The gay guy was the only one who took my side. "Girl, this is NOT what he signed up for" was what he said to her. She took that advice and went on a diet.
Gonna be honest with you. If anything the only red flag is that you care enough to try to play detective about this
Even if it did mean something, who cares? It's just another girl. You'll find out more about her when she's in your bed
Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
Or, another theory is: they have sex with the Alpha's to get their physical desires supplied and then the gay friends could be like the Betas that suplies their needs of attention and emotional intimacy. It's really an idea, not guessing that this is the right one.
If anyone have some idea about that, share please. I would like to hear what you think about it.
A girl who has a gayboy best friend is a major no no.
Firstly, yes you have to question why she doesn't have a female as a best friend. Does she not make good relationships with her own sex? why? is it because other women don't like her? she doesn't like other women?
Secondly, a gay will corrupt her mind. A woman who starts hanging out with gay boys changes. She doesn't have the same mind or personality that she had before meeting the gay boy. She will become more liberal. More hedonist. Maybe even start speaking in gay language when she's with them. I wouldn't really fear that she'd sleep with them as most "out" gays are simply gay degenerates (no biness). It's the mind, personality and values that you would worry about.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Women in social circles are very catty and talk behind each other’s backs even if they are good friends. Gay men are very fluid and easy going, but still have the male instinct of being direct when the situation calls for it. Most women appreciate it as gay men can call them out on their bs, rather than just nod and agree with the woman when she’s saying ridiculous things about the male. Think of it as... best of both worlds.
If you’re worried about her gay bestie having sex with her, than you have other issues you need resolve within yourself.