"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Girl didn't answer my text message
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Learningquietly
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I'd wait it out bro. You keep trying to contact her will make you look desperate. Let her get ahold of you.
That said, wait a day or two and send her a casual text like "what's on tap for the weekend?" If she blows that one off too, hey, it's Friday -- plenty of women out there for the taking.
kidkurious
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I got this girl's number at the club last week. I called her today and left a voicemail saying, Hey its dole, just called to see what your up to this weekend? Call me back at xxx-xxxx.
An hour later I get a text from her saying:
her:
Hey hows it going?
me:
Good, what are you up to?
her:
Just relaxing you?
me:
Dining at a restaurant called Ceasers. Are you going out this weekend?
No reply from her, this was earlier today around 5pm.
Any advice?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Rhoto
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Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.Rhoto said:Kuwi, what did you say and when? You're over analyzing and worrying yourself for no reason.
Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.spax said:lol that sounds desperate. u shudnt be thinking of her.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
That's a pretty interesting text, so she'd be sure to be curious...I'd wait like a week then call her.
And AKA FLEX...the chances that it didn't go through are too slim to even mention, IMO. However, I don't know what it's like in other countries, so maybe I'm wrong.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You may want to listen to him. When you say things, they have an underlining tone to them. What his text is really saying is "Hey, I think about you and now I want a reaction from you". The reason it's desperate is because he could have just told her what it was that reminded him of her. Instead he was seeking a response which is desperate.yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Now he's showing us that he needs a response because it's eating him up.
Reyaj
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These texting games happen to me all the time!
Brandonc662
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Dole said:Call me back at 4712811.QUOTE]
Did you just give anyone looking at this thread your real phone #?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
OrangeCrusader
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Fail. Do you think the OP wants the truth here, or sugarcoated BS? Which helps him out in the end?yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Get off your high horse, idiot.
Kuwi, still no reply?
That txt makes you sound too interested in her. Imagine if she texted you this, I bet you would take it as "cool she thinks about me, so she must liike me" and if you ever hear love songs, a lot of them mention how "everything reminds me of you". So you've given her a very strong IOI right there, might as well have told her you like her.Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
What to do now:
In the case that she asks you what it is that reminded you of her, tell her you saw this girl who also looked like she didn't care about she looks. Or that you saw someone with a similar crooked smile.
If she doesnt have any contact with you, then you will do the same. You're the man and shes the girl, so if she has any remote interest in you, she will break down first and contact you, because she has less power than you.
MooseGod
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Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
I think that's usually true. If IL is high, you will know it, and she won't let go.. cuz she is curious about you. Else, you will have to run around and persist which also might pay off, but its painful and lame.stumped said:To the OP:
Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
Majority of the good looking girls are *****es who play mind games with guys. **** them. They deserve a douche bag who'll **** them and abandon them.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.