"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl didn't answer my text message
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Learningquietly
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I'd wait it out bro. You keep trying to contact her will make you look desperate. Let her get ahold of you.
That said, wait a day or two and send her a casual text like "what's on tap for the weekend?" If she blows that one off too, hey, it's Friday -- plenty of women out there for the taking.
kidkurious
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I got this girl's number at the club last week. I called her today and left a voicemail saying, Hey its dole, just called to see what your up to this weekend? Call me back at xxx-xxxx.
An hour later I get a text from her saying:
her:
Hey hows it going?
me:
Good, what are you up to?
her:
Just relaxing you?
me:
Dining at a restaurant called Ceasers. Are you going out this weekend?
No reply from her, this was earlier today around 5pm.
Any advice?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Rhoto
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Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.Rhoto said:Kuwi, what did you say and when? You're over analyzing and worrying yourself for no reason.
Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.spax said:lol that sounds desperate. u shudnt be thinking of her.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
That's a pretty interesting text, so she'd be sure to be curious...I'd wait like a week then call her.
And AKA FLEX...the chances that it didn't go through are too slim to even mention, IMO. However, I don't know what it's like in other countries, so maybe I'm wrong.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You may want to listen to him. When you say things, they have an underlining tone to them. What his text is really saying is "Hey, I think about you and now I want a reaction from you". The reason it's desperate is because he could have just told her what it was that reminded him of her. Instead he was seeking a response which is desperate.yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Now he's showing us that he needs a response because it's eating him up.
Reyaj
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These texting games happen to me all the time!
Brandonc662
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Dole said:Call me back at 4712811.QUOTE]
Did you just give anyone looking at this thread your real phone #?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
OrangeCrusader
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Fail. Do you think the OP wants the truth here, or sugarcoated BS? Which helps him out in the end?yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Get off your high horse, idiot.
Kuwi, still no reply?
That txt makes you sound too interested in her. Imagine if she texted you this, I bet you would take it as "cool she thinks about me, so she must liike me" and if you ever hear love songs, a lot of them mention how "everything reminds me of you". So you've given her a very strong IOI right there, might as well have told her you like her.Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
What to do now:
In the case that she asks you what it is that reminded you of her, tell her you saw this girl who also looked like she didn't care about she looks. Or that you saw someone with a similar crooked smile.
If she doesnt have any contact with you, then you will do the same. You're the man and shes the girl, so if she has any remote interest in you, she will break down first and contact you, because she has less power than you.
MooseGod
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Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
daygameguy
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I think that's usually true. If IL is high, you will know it, and she won't let go.. cuz she is curious about you. Else, you will have to run around and persist which also might pay off, but its painful and lame.stumped said:To the OP:
Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
Majority of the good looking girls are *****es who play mind games with guys. **** them. They deserve a douche bag who'll **** them and abandon them.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.