"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl didn't answer my text message
- Thread starter Kuwi
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Learningquietly
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I'd wait it out bro. You keep trying to contact her will make you look desperate. Let her get ahold of you.
That said, wait a day or two and send her a casual text like "what's on tap for the weekend?" If she blows that one off too, hey, it's Friday -- plenty of women out there for the taking.
kidkurious
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I got this girl's number at the club last week. I called her today and left a voicemail saying, Hey its dole, just called to see what your up to this weekend? Call me back at xxx-xxxx.
An hour later I get a text from her saying:
her:
Hey hows it going?
me:
Good, what are you up to?
her:
Just relaxing you?
me:
Dining at a restaurant called Ceasers. Are you going out this weekend?
No reply from her, this was earlier today around 5pm.
Any advice?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Rhoto
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Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.Rhoto said:Kuwi, what did you say and when? You're over analyzing and worrying yourself for no reason.
Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.spax said:lol that sounds desperate. u shudnt be thinking of her.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
That's a pretty interesting text, so she'd be sure to be curious...I'd wait like a week then call her.
And AKA FLEX...the chances that it didn't go through are too slim to even mention, IMO. However, I don't know what it's like in other countries, so maybe I'm wrong.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You may want to listen to him. When you say things, they have an underlining tone to them. What his text is really saying is "Hey, I think about you and now I want a reaction from you". The reason it's desperate is because he could have just told her what it was that reminded him of her. Instead he was seeking a response which is desperate.yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Now he's showing us that he needs a response because it's eating him up.
Reyaj
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These texting games happen to me all the time!
Brandonc662
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Dole said:Call me back at 4712811.QUOTE]
Did you just give anyone looking at this thread your real phone #?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
OrangeCrusader
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Fail. Do you think the OP wants the truth here, or sugarcoated BS? Which helps him out in the end?yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Get off your high horse, idiot.
Kuwi, still no reply?
That txt makes you sound too interested in her. Imagine if she texted you this, I bet you would take it as "cool she thinks about me, so she must liike me" and if you ever hear love songs, a lot of them mention how "everything reminds me of you". So you've given her a very strong IOI right there, might as well have told her you like her.Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
What to do now:
In the case that she asks you what it is that reminded you of her, tell her you saw this girl who also looked like she didn't care about she looks. Or that you saw someone with a similar crooked smile.
If she doesnt have any contact with you, then you will do the same. You're the man and shes the girl, so if she has any remote interest in you, she will break down first and contact you, because she has less power than you.
MooseGod
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Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
daygameguy
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I think that's usually true. If IL is high, you will know it, and she won't let go.. cuz she is curious about you. Else, you will have to run around and persist which also might pay off, but its painful and lame.stumped said:To the OP:
Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
Majority of the good looking girls are *****es who play mind games with guys. **** them. They deserve a douche bag who'll **** them and abandon them.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.