You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.Rhoto said:Kuwi, what did you say and when? You're over analyzing and worrying yourself for no reason.
Dole, personally I find a text reply to a call to be childish. I wouldn't expect much, you've IoIed twice, and she hasn't reciprocated. Wait for her to make a move, but don't wait on her.
shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.spax said:lol that sounds desperate. u shudnt be thinking of her.
Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You may want to listen to him. When you say things, they have an underlining tone to them. What his text is really saying is "Hey, I think about you and now I want a reaction from you". The reason it's desperate is because he could have just told her what it was that reminded him of her. Instead he was seeking a response which is desperate.yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
Dole said:Call me back at 4712811.QUOTE]
Did you just give anyone looking at this thread your real phone #?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Fail. Do you think the OP wants the truth here, or sugarcoated BS? Which helps him out in the end?yama600rr said:shut the hell up, dont act like you're the man or something. just because he likes someone and shows a little emotion so that makes him desperate. am sick of all the losers on here trying to act like they're the ****. all yall are desperate losers who cant get chicks for sh1t, and that's why you're on here.
That txt makes you sound too interested in her. Imagine if she texted you this, I bet you would take it as "cool she thinks about me, so she must liike me" and if you ever hear love songs, a lot of them mention how "everything reminds me of you". So you've given her a very strong IOI right there, might as well have told her you like her.Kuwi said:I said OMG, I just saw something that reminded me of you. I said this at around 2:00 P.M. thursday.
I think that's usually true. If IL is high, you will know it, and she won't let go.. cuz she is curious about you. Else, you will have to run around and persist which also might pay off, but its painful and lame.stumped said:To the OP:
Her interest in you is slim to none most likely.
As you get older you learn how to see things for what they are.
Basically, if someone has interest in you, you will know it,
if not, then you get the run around a lot.
Don't let your ego get in the way of the facts. I can tell you
for a fact that girls rarely play hard to get, they are to afraid
you'll walk. Thats what I mean by you will definitely know when
a girl has interest.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.