"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Getting with older women

Peaks&Valleys

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Peaks&Valleys

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Hey, my man, to each his own.
 

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Maybe I really am meant to be with an older woman, as I find Helen incredibly sexy in that picture.
Lolz if you wait it out Leelee will be available.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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@The Duke said after he got his vasectomy, the fact broads could bang him with virtually no pregnancy risk ended up adding to his sexiness factor in their eyes.

I wonder if there's a similar explanation to my preference for older broads (the fact I could bang an older broad with little to no pregnancy risk adds to their sexiness factor in my book)
I've never had a woman ever ask about this and have banged many without condoms and not a single one has ever got pregnant.

My suggestion would be to learn to control your bodily functions better.
 

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Please don't suggest an autist to go barebacking. Pulling out before the chorus isn't a safe method of birth control.

I think he's better off getting snipped.
I knew a man who relied on pulling out. He had 3 kids.

You're right, pulling out isn't effective.
 

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Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
Older women are the easiest to get with especially if you're a younger guy in your 30s
1. Just be in shape
2. Don't be a weirdo

Some older women have high libido and want to have fun. The only thing about older women especially that age range 45-65.
Some of them have insufferable, vapid personalities, due to bitter or jaded life experiences. This is why I prefer to date younger or if around my age she has to not be bitter and jaded.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Older women are the easiest to get with especially if you're a younger guy in your 30s
1. Just be in shape
2. Don't be a weirdo

Some older women have high libido and want to have fun. The only thing about older women especially that age range 45-65.
Some of them have insufferable, vapid personalities, due to bitter or jaded life experiences. This is why I prefer to date younger or if around my age she has to not be bitter and jaded.
I'm in pretty good shape (my newly uploaded profile picture is my bicep)

The "don't be a weirdo" part is the challenge for me (seeing as I'm an autist)
 

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On the topic of older women:

I've said on the forum before that the last time I had free sex was 3 and a half years ago.

After thinking on it, the last time I had free sex with a woman below 30 (or even a woman below 40 for that matter), however, was 2012. More than a decade ago.

Let that sink in. Ever since I nailed a 22 year old in October 2012, I've had no free sex with any 20-somethings or 30-somethings (only 40-somethings). Perhaps that's a sign I really am meant for older broads.
 

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and that you should stop ogling college-age girls and judge their baggy clothes.
The young meat is nice to look at (even if I don't want to get involved with one anymore, baggy pants or not)

I'm glad the 22 year old I got with in October 2012 was wearing yoga pants.

As for the baggy pants on the college girl you're referencing from another thread, here's an analogy: It's been said on this forum that it's a shame when a young guy "ruins" his looks by dressing like a Boomer dad. Couldn't it also be said that it's a shame when a hottie ruins her good looks by wearing baggy pants?
 

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The difference, Oh Dense One, is that the clueless man needs fashion advice because he wants to be ogled preferably by attractive women. He'll get some attention from the unattractive women, but nothing he can't handle.
The 'hottie' on the other hand tries not draw lustful looks and makes her unattractive to shallow pervs. She doing a good job of getting her goal by discouraging creepy pervs from approaching her. So she's a success, not a failure.
Umm, this forum is full of men who like to see a nice backside in tight jeans.

I'm pretty sure a lot of men on here would refrain from approaching a broad in baggy pants (no matter how good her looks are)
 

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I've made it clear on this forum my pregnency phobia is why I prefer older.

That being said, I recall one poster (I think it might have been @BaronOfHair) suggesting I might seek older broads as a PTSD response to the way my female peers treated me in high school (viewing me as the freak of the school, a freaky creep no girl would possibly want, etc)

I stand by my claim that the pregnancy thing is undoubtedly the primary reason I prefer older.

I'm starting to suspect, however, the PTSD explanation might be a secondary reason I prefer older.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I've made it clear on this forum my pregnency phobia is why I prefer older.

That being said, I recall one poster (I think it might have been @BaronOfHair) suggesting I might seek older broads as a PTSD response to the way my female peers treated me in high school (viewing me as the freak of the school, a freaky creep no girl would possibly want, etc)
The bar for acquiring PTSD has become lower than Sydeney Sweeney's typical neckline these days
 

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The bar for acquiring PTSD has become lower than Sydeney Sweeney's typical neckline these days
Obviously I don't compare myself to a soldier who fought in Iraq when I say PTSD.

But when you hear the message "you're a creepy freak no girl would possibly want" all throughout middle school/high school (then, to some degree, in college too), it can tear you down.
 

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Obviously I don't compare myself to a soldier who fought in Iraq when I say PTSD.

But when you hear the message "you're a creepy freak no girl would possibly want" all throughout middle school/high school (then, to some degree, in college too), it can tear you down.
CPTSD (complex ptsd) is the term you're looking for.
 

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Actually, no. C-PTSD does not change your sexual preferences that way.

You don't have PTSD or C-PTSD. You're just autistic, which often comes with weird phobias to justify self-soothing behaviour.

Like a phobia for getting women pregnant is a mental justification for your emotionally autistic mind to your fetish for maternal figures. You feel safe with old women who won't ask you to be a man, but with whom you can be as much as a child as you want to be.
First of all, 45 (the age in which where I'm no longer afraid to insert myself into a woman) isn't old enough to be my mom. A mere 12 years; that's more in older cousin/older sister territory.

Second of all, having a phobia of pregnancy is one thing. But going as far as focusing on post-prime broads to circumvent a pregnancy phobia, that's on an entirely new level. Many men couldn't bring themselves to focus on post-prime broads, no matter how much the man fears pregnancy. Hell, even on this very forum, I hear there used to be an active fellow autist who shared my crippling pregnancy phobia...yet even he (from what I've heard) preferred young broads.

There has to be another factor at play for why I feel no romantic feelings at all toward young broads. Young broads can be nice to look at; no doubt (And I'd love to kiss/fondle a young broad, as well as watch a young broad pee). But the desire to get romantically involved (or have sex) with a young broad? That desire is simply lacking in me.

There's got to be another explanation (besides my pregnancy phobia/ASD) at play to explain my total lack of romantic interest in young broads.

And I already covered why the mommy issues explanation isn't it. Mommy issues wouldn't explain why my preferred minimum age of 45 remains unchanged, even as the age gap between myself and a 45 year old broad narrows.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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