Getting with older women

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Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
 

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Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
I don't have an answer to your question, but I hear you about older women. They are usually better in bed and hornier than younger women. They like younger men to validate them.
 

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I don't have an answer to your question, but I hear you about older women. They are usually better in bed and hornier than younger women. They like younger men to validate them.
Plus, with this type of age gap, there's an unwritten rule that a traditional relationship is unrealistic. Therefore, both parties know right off the bat that the arrangement is sex-only.

I've also found that older women are more open to fetishes.
 

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Plus, with this type of age gap, there's an unwritten rule that a traditional relationship is unrealistic. Therefore, both parties know right off the bat that the arrangement is sex-only.

I've also found that older women are more open to fetishes.
I'm 47 and my last few hookups and lays over the last few have been with women 3 to 10 years older. It's hard to connect with women 10 to 15 years younger (atleast online)
 

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I've actually found it more difficult to get with older women than younger. Despite being middle aged, I've had better results with younger (18-30) than older. Older women seem more cautious and skeptical. I get the impression they think I'm running some 'game' on them. Younger ones just seem less defensive and more 'giddy'.
 

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I don't have an answer to your question, but I hear you about older women. They are usually better in bed and hornier than younger women. They like younger men to validate them.
I've found older women seem to have more stamina. They'll ride you. Younger women orgasm too quickly.
 

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Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
I'm just guessing here, but I wonder if part of the problem is insecurity? If they're 13-23 years older than you are, they might be thinking their bodies might not hold up in comparison. Maybe the answer might be in making them feel more attractive or comfortable somehow?
 

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I used to only date older women with lots of money, the thing is they can date to more their own tastes as opposed to servicing or being influenced by their social circles as younger women do and are.

Speaking purely statistically, older women get the most matches/likes on online dating apps because younger dudes will bang them and older dudes will date them, the same could be said about real life although I doubt they get the same approaches from younger men compared to online, but the point im making is that putting an older woman into scarcity mindset is basically impossible, but they also understand the value of a man who can give them what they want and need as long as you care enough to figure that out.

With the above being said, you can authentically and easily escape the friend zone with an older woman as long as you understand where your leverage is and show her you can service that want/need and also this isn't sexual, she has access to sexual energy in abundance more so than any other demographic generally speaking.

So basically the only way you can't get in is by banging your way in
 

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Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
Hi Goodman,
Not just a Good Man but wise too....A marooned Seafarer had best just convince himself that Coconuts are actually rather nice...Most Older Women are a waste of time,but that still leaves an awful lot of Mrs Robinsons out there...As Ben Franklin tells a younger Man,many are like Old Peaches when you get past the wrinkly skin they are just soo sweet...With a younger Women you do all the work,she often just lies there like a sack of Spuds,the experienced Women will know that to keep you around she has to make an effort.
 

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I'm just guessing here, but I wonder if part of the problem is insecurity? If they're 13-23 years older than you are, they might be thinking their bodies might not hold up in comparison. Maybe the answer might be in making them feel more attractive or comfortable somehow?
I agree about insecurity, but I have a different angle.

I think they might find younger guys attractive, but some might have mental hangups about going forward with a hookup or FWB with that younger guy.

Sort of like… “I don’t do that anymore” or “I shouldn’t be doing that at my age.” In others words, they might talk themselves out of it.
 

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I'm just guessing here, but I wonder if part of the problem is insecurity? If they're 13-23 years older than you are, they might be thinking their bodies might not hold up in comparison. Maybe the answer might be in making them feel more attractive or comfortable somehow?
Hi Zecko,
Yes for Many insecurity is what drives them....In my experience the never married Spinsters of the Parish should not be your Target,rather a Divorced Woman,She knows what she wants,If Athletic she is usually chasing Forever Youth,it's the new Religion,the affirmation for which is to have a younger Man in tow She wants to show you off to her Friends and Family...very often it is Quid pro Quo,time in the Bedroom in exchange for your Social presence.
 

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how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
Give them orgasms.

They are usually better in bed and hornier than younger women. They like younger men to validate them.
They're often less inhibited, but not better in bed.

I've also found that older women are more open to fetishes.
Like I said, not worried that much about being slvt shamed anymore.

I've found older women seem to have more stamina. They'll ride you. Younger women orgasm too quickly.
With experience you become less 'easy'. When I was young, a woman just had to put her mouth around my trouser snake for me to come in 4-5 minutes. Now they better have some sucking technique or they'll be sucking for 30 minutes.
 

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Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?
I get that you like older women. I do also.

But why the heck would you want to go above 65 or even above 40+ ?

I don't get it. Do you like grannies?

Dude you are 32. Wake up.
 

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I'm just guessing here, but I wonder if part of the problem is insecurity? If they're 13-23 years older than you are, they might be thinking their bodies might not hold up in comparison. Maybe the answer might be in making them feel more attractive or comfortable somehow?
You might be right.

When I was in my early 20s, I got with a 48 year old. She asked me ahead of time if I've been with an older woman. In retrospect, she probably wanted to make sure I wouldn't be shocked at her body.

And yeah, making the woman feel more attractive couldn't hurt.
 

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Hi Goodman,
Not just a Good Man but wise too....A marooned Seafarer had best just convince himself that Coconuts are actually rather nice...Most Older Women are a waste of time,but that still leaves an awful lot of Mrs Robinsons out there...As Ben Franklin tells a younger Man,many are like Old Peaches when you get past the wrinkly skin they are just soo sweet...With a younger Women you do all the work,she often just lies there like a sack of Spuds,the experienced Women will know that to keep you around she has to make an effort.
If I recall, Ben Franklin also said something along the lines of "Even if the rest of her body ages, her cooch looks no different than a younger woman's"
 

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I agree about insecurity, but I have a different angle.

I think they might find younger guys attractive, but some might have mental hangups about going forward with a hookup or FWB with that younger guy.

Sort of like… “I don’t do that anymore” or “I shouldn’t be doing that at my age.” In others words, they might talk themselves out of it.
I know an escort perhaps isn't the best woman to get lady advice from (as her livelihood depends on men continuing to pay for sex).

That being said, when I was heading into my building with my escort this weekend, we happened to run into my next door neighbor. My next door neighbor is in her early 50s.

When I was in bed with the escort, I mentioned to her that I would totally like to get with my next door neighbor. The escort said my next door neighbor, even if into me, probably thinks there's no way a guy as young as me would be into a woman 20 years older than me.
 

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Plus, with this type of age gap, there's an unwritten rule that a traditional relationship is unrealistic. Therefore, both parties know right off the bat that the arrangement is sex-only.

I've also found that older women are more open to fetishes.
Nope.

Older women are equally delusional as their younger competitors . An older woman whose sincerely impressed by you will DEFINITELY try to speed shyte up.

My problem with older women is that I can't stop thinking that I actually should've been dating the 12 year younger version of her.

It's a matter of taste I geuss. I agree that an older woman MIGHT give you less headaches, but the difference isn't as great as people believe it is. I've been with older women who behaved like angry teenage girls.
 

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Give them orgasms.


They're often less inhibited, but not better in bed.


Like I said, not worried that much about being slvt shamed anymore.


With experience you become less 'easy'. When I was young, a woman just had to put her mouth around my trouser snake for me to come in 4-5 minutes. Now they better have some sucking technique or they'll be sucking for 30 minutes.
Giving an older woman an orgasm requires her to give me a chance first.

As for the fetish thing, you're right, older women are less afraid of being slvt-shamed.

Another thing about my fetish in particular (watching a woman pee), younger women are more self-conscious about bodily functions.
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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