Getting with older women

[BillyPilgrim]

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The point is: Even though my preference for older broads started out merely as a loophole to dodge pregnancy, I ended up coming to see the beauty of an older woman.

I was just doing my Baron impression; that was intentional nonsense. To your point though, lots of women in the 45-60s age range are still bangable where we live (Phx/Scottsdale in Arizona USA) which is rare for most of the world. Most dudes don't get that.

 

[GoodMan32]

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I was just doing my Baron impression; that was intentional nonsense. To your point though, lots of women in the 45-60s age range are still bangable where we live (Phx/Scottsdale in Arizona USA) which is rare for most of the world. Most dudes don't get that.

You make a good point.

Since broads from my preferred age range are (in many cases) still bangable where we live, maybe that's why a lot of men in other places don't get my preference.

It also might explain why I don't get why a lot of men are repulsed by 45-60s broads.

Come to think of it, however, there are even men who live here who don't get why I'm into older broads.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

At the very least, you said the sexiness factor I derive from getting to bang an older broad with little to no pregnancy risk isn't nearly the same as the sexiness factor broads derived from getting to bang The Duke post-vasectomy, knowing there's virtually no chance of pregnancy.

I fail to see the big difference. In both cases, a party finds sexiness at the idea of intercourse with minimal/no pregnancy risk

(45 through 60s, my age preference, isn't exactly geriatric by the way. It's not like I'm into 80 or 90 year olds)

Some people will agree to disagree, @AmsterdamAssassin disagrees to disagree.

 

[GoodMan32]

Because you're not a woman. Women can fear getting pregnant, that's not the same as a guy fearing impregnating a fertile woman and therefore chasing post-menopausal 'broads'. Do you see the difference now? Or do you keep autistically thinking you can somehow convince anyone that your mental issues are 'normal' and 'understandable'? You're a freak, just accept that and let's move on.

Ok, there is a difference between a broad fearing a pregnancy vs a guy fearing the thought of impregnating a broad.

You're right, I'm a freak. I'm a freaky creep no girl would possibly want (or so I was told in high school)

The fact I'd rather kill myself than raise/support my progeny would explain why my pregnancy phobia is more severe than most men (even men who also don't want kids). A pregnancy is a literal death sentence for me.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Because you're not a woman. Women can fear getting pregnant, that's not the same as a guy fearing impregnating a fertile woman and therefore chasing post-menopausal 'broads'. Do you see the difference now? Or do you keep autistically thinking you can somehow convince anyone that your mental issues are 'normal' and 'understandable'? You're a freak, just accept that and let's move on.

As most everyone in the world knows, Men in the US cannot opt out of 18 years of child support while women can. Might be time for a smoke break. Or did someone lace your stash?

 

[GoodMan32]

As most everyone in the world knows, Men in the US cannot opt out of 18 years of child support while women can. Might be time for a smoke break. Or did someone lace your stash?

Well-said.

Does a 52 year old broad look as good as a broad half her age?

In most cases, no.

But does a 52 year old broad still look bangable? In many cases, yeah.

Does the minimal to no pregnancy risk that comes with banging a 52 year old broad make sex with her more worthwhile than sex with a broad half her age? Absolutely.

 

[SW15]

Does the minimal to no pregnancy risk that comes with banging a 52 year old broad make sex with her more worthwhile than sex with a broad half her age? Absolutely.

My answer is absolutely not.

I've had sex with 26 year olds. Plenty of women in the 21-35 year old range use some birth control method. I follow Iron Rule of Tomassi #5 and I use protection. I can have sex with a 26 year old and the pregnancy risk will be minimal.

The majority of the women I've had sex with were birth control users.

 

[GoodMan32]

My answer is absolutely not.

I've had sex with 26 year olds. Plenty of women in the 21-35 year old range use some birth control method. I follow Iron Rule of Tomassi #5 and I use protection. I can have sex with a 26 year old and the pregnancy risk will be minimal.

The majority of the women I've had sex with were birth control users.

You do you. Whatever works. If you prefer sex with a 26 year old, more power to you.

You've admitted you check the condom during sex (to make sure it hasn't slipped/broken). If you're OK with doing that, again, more power to you. All I know is when I did that (checked the condom) when I had sex with a woman close to my age this summer, it totally took the fun out of sex.

As for 52 year olds, I find my 52 year old next door neighbor incredibly sexy. The fact there's little to no pregnancy risk is merely an added bonus. Simply getting to talk to her is the highlight of my day. But yeah, I understand that (as you've pointed out) the hints she's shared about her sexual past mean I'd have no chance with her even if I was in her preferred age cohort.

I've reached the age where a lot of early 50s broads don't even really look old to me. I'm surprised you (who has 8 years on me) don't find early 50s broads attractive.

 

[GoodMan32]

As for Iron Rule #5, think of my preference for older broads as my version of taking birth control into my own hands.

 

[SW15]

you don't find early 50s broads attractive.

I don't.

When I was under 25, I could admit there were attractive women in their 30s/40s. Right now, I still find women near my own age attractive. However, even an attractive 40 year old isn't looking as good as most 20-25 year olds.

As for Iron Rule #5, think of my preference for older broads as my version of taking birth control into my own hands.

That's an interpretation of Iron Rule of Tomassi #5, but far from what Rollo had in mind when he wrote that iron rule.

 

[itouchyou]

oldest I've been attracted to is 50, and she took really good care of herself.

can't imagine 65+. grannies? wot.

 

[Lean Baby Face]

Genuinely enjoying this thread. Just finished reading through it start to finish. Lots of informative and interesting inputs.

I'll admit my age preference is nearly identical to that of @GoodMan32, and my attraction to older women has only intensified since my divorce (ex-wife similar age to me).

I've come to a point now in my life where I love myself, my independence, my economic stability, my free time, my hobbies, and my physical and mental well-being, all which are things older women often love/feel as well, and therefore wanna continue living their lives that way. For that reason, older women are the perfect match for me.

I no longer want a full-time relationship with big plans and living in the future rather than the present. I just want a hot (at least for me and @GoodMan32 ), feminine, stable, and relaxed partner to be with on weekends, days off, or holidays, when I'm in need of feeling loved, desired, and feel masculine and sexy. Most older women want the exact same thing, unlike young women, whose standards have massively inflated and exclusively dates up to chase the best (and often unrealistic) living standards in the future.

Talking about looks, I also find that women below 30 look like girls to me. It's not that they're not attractive, I just can't imagine a partnership with them, including sexually. Maybe it's just a part of my personality, or my style, or maturity in comparison to my age. I also find that I thrive among older individuals in general as well. Most people at my job are also significantly older than me, and it has made significant (positive) changes to my personality.

Speaking of hot coworkers, my current job crush is a woman in her 60s, and soon we'll have an event and I'll be approaching her real deep this time. We've spoken and danced before, but I was married at that time, so wasn't really approaching back then.

 

[SW15]

oldest I've been attracted to is 50, and she took really good care of herself.

I can't recall a time in my life where I was attracted to a physically attracted to a woman 50+.

When I was under 25, there were times where I found women older than me physically attractive. A lot of woman are older than a guy who is under 25. I don't think it would be unusual for a 20 year old man to find a 30 year old woman physically attractive.

 

[GoodMan32]

I don't.

When I was under 25, I could admit there were attractive women in their 30s/40s. Right now, I still find women near my own age attractive. However, even an attractive 40 year old isn't looking as good as most 20-25 year olds.



That's an interpretation of Iron Rule of Tomassi #5, but far from what Rollo had in mind when he wrote that iron rule.

In that case, you're going to be in for a world of disappointment as you age.

As it is, it sounds like you aren't exactly thrilled about a 40 year old (even an attractive one). When you're 50 (which will come quickly; less than a decade away), you'll have a hard time getting a 40 year old at all (I remember you've said before on the forum that once you dip 10 years younger, it becomes next-to-impossible to get into her panties, as the broad thinks you're too old)

I, on the other hand, have nothing to fear about aging. If anything, I'm going to become more appealing to my preferred demographic as I age.

 

[GoodMan32]

oldest I've been attracted to is 50, and she took really good care of herself.

can't imagine 65+. grannies? wot.

I admit it's somewhat rare for me to be into 65+ (but it happens)

I know a 66 year old who looks awesome for her age. I'd be ecstatic to bang her.

Then there's the 65 year old I've been banging since she was 57. My attraction to her is fading. If it weren't for the fact I met her when I was more attracted to her, I'm pretty sure I'd cut her loose.

 

[GoodMan32]

Genuinely enjoying this thread. Just finished reading through it start to finish. Lots of informative and interesting inputs.

I'll admit my age preference is nearly identical to that of @GoodMan32, and my attraction to older women has only intensified since my divorce (ex-wife similar age to me).

I've come to a point now in my life where I love myself, my independence, my economic stability, my free time, my hobbies, and my physical and mental well-being, all which are things older women often love/feel as well, and therefore wanna continue living their lives that way. For that reason, older women are the perfect match for me.

I no longer want a full-time relationship with big plans and living in the future rather than the present. I just want a hot (at least for me and @GoodMan32 ), feminine, stable, and relaxed partner to be with on weekends, days off, or holidays, when I'm in need of feeling loved, desired, and feel masculine and sexy. Most older women want the exact same thing, unlike young women, whose standards have massively inflated and exclusively dates up to chase the best (and often unrealistic) living standards in the future.

Talking about looks, I also find that women below 30 look like girls to me. It's not that they're not attractive, I just can't imagine a partnership with them, including sexually. Maybe it's just a part of my personality, or my style, or maturity in comparison to my age. I also find that I thrive among older individuals in general as well. Most people at my job are also significantly older than me, and it has made significant (positive) changes to my personality.

Speaking of hot coworkers, my current job crush is a woman in her 60s, and soon we'll have an event and I'll be approaching her real deep this time. We've spoken and danced before, but I was married at that time, so wasn't really approaching back then.

Interesting how much we have in common. Per your profile, you're even younger than me. Yet you prefer the same age cohort I do.

I know what you mean about broads below 30 looking like girls.

Another thing we have in common is the fact we don't want a full time relationship; just a weekend smash-piece.

The coworkers I associate with the most tend to be much older female coworkers. I even had a mutually flirtatious dynamic with a 60 year old woman I worked with back when I was in my late 20s.

 

[GoodMan32]

I can't recall a time in my life where I was attracted to a physically attracted to a woman 50+.

When I was under 25, there were times where I found women older than me physically attractive. A lot of woman are older than a guy who is under 25. I don't think it would be unusual for a 20 year old man to find a 30 year old woman physically attractive.

Here's actress Helen Hunt back in her early 50s.



Then here's actress Kim Basinger in her early 50s



You're telling me you don't find either one attractive?

 

[SW15]

In that case, you're going to be in for a world of disappointment as you age.

As it is, it sounds like you aren't exactly thrilled about a 40 year old (even an attractive one). When you're 50 (which will come quickly; less than a decade away), you'll have a hard time getting a 40 year old at all (I remember you've said before on the forum that once you dip 10 years younger, it becomes next-to-impossible to get into her panties, as the broad thinks you're too old)

Most men have some level of disappointment as they age.

45+ men who find themselves dating again often find they have to drop their standards in order to get someone.

Many 45+ men are having sex with the same 45+ woman that they've been having sex with for decades. Those guys take some solace in the fact they had sex with her in the better looking years.

I'm going to become more appealing to my preferred demographic as I age.

That would be true on one variable (age). When you're 50, 45-50 year old women are going to find you more appealing because you're in an age range that they consider acceptable. It's unknown how they'll perceive you at 50 on other variables. Income/net worth start to become more important in initial seduction and retention in later years.

 

[RickTheToad]

Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?

Why stop at 65? I hear there are some 80 and 90 year olds at the nursing home. You can take your pick!

 

[GoodMan32]

Most men have some level of disappointment as they age.

45+ men who find themselves dating again often find they have to drop their standards in order to get someone.

Many 45+ men are having sex with the same 45+ woman that they've been having sex with for decades. Those guys take some solace in the fact they had sex with her in the better looking years.



That would be true on one variable (age). When you're 50, 45-50 year old women are going to find you more appealing because you're in an age range that they consider acceptable. It's unknown how they'll perceive you at 50 on other variables. Income/net worth start to become more important in initial seduction and retention in later years.

Income/net worth being important as you age depends on the woman. My aunt, post-divorce, ended up dating a man who was then in his late 40s whose income/net worth was nothing special (in fact, he had quite a bit of debt). They're now married.

Then 4-5 years ago or so, I knew a man in his 50s who was technically homeless (slept in his car; showered at Planet Fitness). Even though he didn't get a whole lot of cooch, he got cooch easier than me. It even got back to me that he said (behind my back) I'm light years behind him when it comes to getting cooch.

I suppose I'm unique in the sense that even though my income is low, I have a decent net worth.