I am new to forum and 5o year old guy and wondering best way to get over outcome based feeling and not caring about success(ie Tao of Steve). I also can't seem to approach woman that I am not attracted to. Is it just hard pill to swallow or is there any recommendations.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Getting over outcome based feeling
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
wifehunter
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I usually feel this way if I catch myself going back to my old "chasing girls" habit... If they're chasing you, you let them worry about any outcomes.
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As a man that is 53 I would suggest you game all women, even those that you are not attracted to. If you get them naked and feel their skin against yours I'm sure you would feel like f ucking them. Do this to improve your game. It's easy to get over outcome based feelings. Do your best and understand that you can't control everything. Do your best and learn from your mistakes.
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You should not approach women you are not attracted, what's the point of that?
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
More field testing. The more you fail and maintain your frame, the less you're affected by rejection.
Well yeah, me either.
wifehunter
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Rejection is good, it saves you from BS, and having to screen / vet them. They did the work for you!
