I am new to forum and 5o year old guy and wondering best way to get over outcome based feeling and not caring about success(ie Tao of Steve). I also can't seem to approach woman that I am not attracted to. Is it just hard pill to swallow or is there any recommendations.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Getting over outcome based feeling
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
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I usually feel this way if I catch myself going back to my old "chasing girls" habit... If they're chasing you, you let them worry about any outcomes.
dustmuffin
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As a man that is 53 I would suggest you game all women, even those that you are not attracted to. If you get them naked and feel their skin against yours I'm sure you would feel like f ucking them. Do this to improve your game. It's easy to get over outcome based feelings. Do your best and understand that you can't control everything. Do your best and learn from your mistakes.
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You should not approach women you are not attracted, what's the point of that?
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
More field testing. The more you fail and maintain your frame, the less you're affected by rejection.
Well yeah, me either.
wifehunter
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Rejection is good, it saves you from BS, and having to screen / vet them. They did the work for you!
