I am new to forum and 5o year old guy and wondering best way to get over outcome based feeling and not caring about success(ie Tao of Steve). I also can't seem to approach woman that I am not attracted to. Is it just hard pill to swallow or is there any recommendations.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Getting over outcome based feeling
- Thread starter jreb14
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I usually feel this way if I catch myself going back to my old "chasing girls" habit... If they're chasing you, you let them worry about any outcomes.
dustmuffin
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As a man that is 53 I would suggest you game all women, even those that you are not attracted to. If you get them naked and feel their skin against yours I'm sure you would feel like f ucking them. Do this to improve your game. It's easy to get over outcome based feelings. Do your best and understand that you can't control everything. Do your best and learn from your mistakes.
lizardking82
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You should not approach women you are not attracted, what's the point of that?
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
More field testing. The more you fail and maintain your frame, the less you're affected by rejection.
Well yeah, me either.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Rejection is good, it saves you from BS, and having to screen / vet them. They did the work for you!
