I am new to forum and 5o year old guy and wondering best way to get over outcome based feeling and not caring about success(ie Tao of Steve). I also can't seem to approach woman that I am not attracted to. Is it just hard pill to swallow or is there any recommendations.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Getting over outcome based feeling
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
wifehunter
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I usually feel this way if I catch myself going back to my old "chasing girls" habit... If they're chasing you, you let them worry about any outcomes.
dustmuffin
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As a man that is 53 I would suggest you game all women, even those that you are not attracted to. If you get them naked and feel their skin against yours I'm sure you would feel like f ucking them. Do this to improve your game. It's easy to get over outcome based feelings. Do your best and understand that you can't control everything. Do your best and learn from your mistakes.
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You should not approach women you are not attracted, what's the point of that?
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
Getting to a place where the result will not affect you as much requires you to be OK in your other life aspects. If you are chill and doing OK in finances, health and hobbies, you will definitely be less worried about whether some chick will accept you or not because there are tons of chicks out there. Do not be lazy as it is quite easy to get comfortable and become rusty. Get out there and approach the girls you like, the ones you find attractive.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
More field testing. The more you fail and maintain your frame, the less you're affected by rejection.
Well yeah, me either.
wifehunter
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Rejection is good, it saves you from BS, and having to screen / vet them. They did the work for you!
