"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So fellas, how do you guys feel about pet names?

My FWB calls me babe. Sometimes he'll text me "hey babe". Also, he'll say things like "I wish you were here" or like yesterday "I hope you're having a good day". Now I know this may just be him trying to butter me up lol but doesn't this seem to cross the fwb boundaries? Should I tell him to relax with what I deem to be mushy talk or is this how fwb is supposed to go? This is my first time having one so I just want to make sure the boundaries are clear....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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''He'' ----> I assume you are a female, yet sometimes , same rules apply regardless of gender.

Actions not words.

You want to keep it strictly FWB, then keep it up that way.

If he wants something more, then it is up to you.
 
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ritapita20 said:
So fellas, how do you guys feel about pet names?

My FWB calls me babe. Sometimes he'll text me "hey babe". Also, he'll say things like "I wish you were here" or like yesterday "I hope you're having a good day". Now I know this may just be him trying to butter me up lol but doesn't this seem to cross the fwb boundaries? Should I tell him to relax with what I deem to be mushy talk or is this how fwb is supposed to go? This is my first time having one so I just want to make sure the boundaries are clear....
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Some people "flirt" like that saying "babe". It's a complement anyways. I'd say not to overthink it. Part of the sex is verbal communication and buttering someone up or making them feel good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ritapita20 said:
nope. they've never done fwb.
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What you should know about FWB is that inevitably one person always wants more. In this case it appears to be him. If that's not what you want, let him know the only communication that needs to take place is when one of you wants to fvck.

I'm assuming you must like the way he lays the pipe, so let him know you have a good time with him but that's all you want right now.
 
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marmel75 said:
What you should know about FWB is that inevitably one person always wants more. In this case it appears to be him. If that's not what you want, let him know the only communication that needs to take place is when one of you wants to fvck.

I'm assuming you must like the way he lays the pipe, so let him know you have a good time with him but that's all you want right now.
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I think she will fvck up his flow if she doesn't let him call her "babe". It's not a big deal, a bunch of people flirt like that with people they are friends with, or won't ever screw. Just enjoy the attention and make him remember it's FWB.
 
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Yeah he crosses FWB boundaries with his sap comments. So make your thread more interesting and tell us how that affects your attraction to him?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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