"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FWB & Boundaries

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So fellas, how do you guys feel about pet names?

My FWB calls me babe. Sometimes he'll text me "hey babe". Also, he'll say things like "I wish you were here" or like yesterday "I hope you're having a good day". Now I know this may just be him trying to butter me up lol but doesn't this seem to cross the fwb boundaries? Should I tell him to relax with what I deem to be mushy talk or is this how fwb is supposed to go? This is my first time having one so I just want to make sure the boundaries are clear....
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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''He'' ----> I assume you are a female, yet sometimes , same rules apply regardless of gender.

Actions not words.

You want to keep it strictly FWB, then keep it up that way.

If he wants something more, then it is up to you.
 
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ritapita20 said:
So fellas, how do you guys feel about pet names?

My FWB calls me babe. Sometimes he'll text me "hey babe". Also, he'll say things like "I wish you were here" or like yesterday "I hope you're having a good day". Now I know this may just be him trying to butter me up lol but doesn't this seem to cross the fwb boundaries? Should I tell him to relax with what I deem to be mushy talk or is this how fwb is supposed to go? This is my first time having one so I just want to make sure the boundaries are clear....
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Some people "flirt" like that saying "babe". It's a complement anyways. I'd say not to overthink it. Part of the sex is verbal communication and buttering someone up or making them feel good.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ritapita20 said:
nope. they've never done fwb.
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What you should know about FWB is that inevitably one person always wants more. In this case it appears to be him. If that's not what you want, let him know the only communication that needs to take place is when one of you wants to fvck.

I'm assuming you must like the way he lays the pipe, so let him know you have a good time with him but that's all you want right now.
 
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marmel75 said:
What you should know about FWB is that inevitably one person always wants more. In this case it appears to be him. If that's not what you want, let him know the only communication that needs to take place is when one of you wants to fvck.

I'm assuming you must like the way he lays the pipe, so let him know you have a good time with him but that's all you want right now.
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I think she will fvck up his flow if she doesn't let him call her "babe". It's not a big deal, a bunch of people flirt like that with people they are friends with, or won't ever screw. Just enjoy the attention and make him remember it's FWB.
 
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Yeah he crosses FWB boundaries with his sap comments. So make your thread more interesting and tell us how that affects your attraction to him?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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