"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Fun posting ridiculous OLD profile screenshots
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Reading that made my eyes bleed.
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This guy is basically using the SS playbook. Go cheap on the first date, especially OLD since you don't know the if it will go anywhere. She probably expects the full dinner and drinks date, and the guy gets nothing in return, one date and that's it.
A first "date" is a meeting to see if she's worth it and lost cost and investment. If you click then I'll do a meal date, etc. Most suggest coffee or a drink for a first date so ice cream isn't unreasonable at all. Espeically if it's a touristy area like a boardwalk or something like I have down here.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Anyone who spends $200 on a first date is stupid. Maybe $500 on up if it's a nice escort but $200 on a date lol.
I'm sure there is a lot of betas who make 150k a year who spend that on a first date though. First meeting should cost no more than $25 for a coffee, ice cream or a couple cheap drinks. The second meeting I can see spending $80 including tip. I would never go fancy unless in a relationship.
This creates free dinner date women and hurts the rest of us.
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Yes he did. Good job Big Goal!
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And those simps ruin it for all the other guys. A first meeting paying for a full meal and all goes against all the advice on SS.
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No, that wasn't me. That was a post that came across my twitter feed. I'm sure some idiot would be begging her to forgive him and would take her out to a nice steak dinner.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Dust 2 Dust
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Ask her how much that one night will cost.
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This is the kind of person to take you on a 4 mile hike just to show you a dog turd.
**Whenever they say "she/her" under their name in their Tinder profile, it's a pro-woman statement. Beware of closet feminists.**
What I suspect is unsaid here is that this woman has the ability to find non-sexual activity to be "erotic". I could be wrong. This is a girl who has had her fun and is still reveling in it.
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I'm noticing this on the old sites too. This pronoun nonsense. Old having a more feminist approach.
Why is old on top of the paywall bs also becoming more woke??
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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The ones that *don't* have them listed, deserve extra credit imo
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Match Group is prob big enough to be affected by ESG scoring
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Yup your size does matter…Jesus
Murk
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Does this mean no Kumar's? I laughed so hard.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.