You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Anyone who spends $200 on a first date is stupid. Maybe $500 on up if it's a nice escort but $200 on a date lol.Dodged a bullet and $200 bill…
Yes he did. Good job Big Goal!Dodged a bullet and $200 bill…
Anyone who spends $200 on a first date is stupid. Maybe $500 on up if it's a nice escort but $200 on a date lol.
I'm sure there is a lot of betas who make 150k a year who spend that on a first date though. First meeting should cost no more than $25 for a coffee, ice cream or a couple cheap drinks. The second meeting I can see spending $80 including tip. I would never go fancy unless in a relationship.
This creates free dinner date women and hurts the rest of us.
And those simps ruin it for all the other guys. A first meeting paying for a full meal and all goes against all the advice on SS.Whether or not you or I would, there’s droves of men who will. Nothing we say is going to stop them either.
No, that wasn't me. That was a post that came across my twitter feed. I'm sure some idiot would be begging her to forgive him and would take her out to a nice steak dinner.Yes he did. Good job Big Goal!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ask her how much that one night will cost.More and more any attractive women in NorCal that are boner worthy have profiles like this:
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This is the kind of person to take you on a 4 mile hike just to show you a dog turd.More and more any attractive women in NorCal that are boner worthy have profiles like this:
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I'm noticing this on the old sites too. This pronoun nonsense. Old having a more feminist approach.The use of pronouns is very hip in NorCal the site asks you for yours.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.

The ones that *don't* have them listed, deserve extra credit imoThe use of pronouns is very hip in NorCal the site asks you for yours.
Match Group is prob big enough to be affected by ESG scoringI'm noticing this on the old sites too. This pronoun nonsense. Old having a more feminist approach.
Why is old on top of the paywall bs also becoming more woke??
Does this mean no Kumar's? I laughed so hard.No QMARS= No Indian men
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.