Abethatguy
Don Juan
And she's banging strangers
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Friendzoned me after we already banged, saying she doesn't want to get emotionally attached to me because her ex is in her life
- Thread starter Abethatguy
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
Abethatguy
Don Juan
They dated a long time, she got to know his family, now she's emotionally attached to him but isn't banging him, he calls her every day and uses her for emotional support etc.
She lets me touch her, kiss her, just doesn't let me bang again because of emotions or whatever.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
I’m pretty much going no contact, but we have a lot of mutual friends.
Why doesn’t she want to bang though? Will distancing myself change things ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she’s not banging him though, she pretty much has him by the collar and considers him weak
lamath
Master Don Juan
She does not deserve your attention, she is a time waster.
Bad behavior aka teasing you should not be rewarded with more attention/validation.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
All I’m saying is, should I just distance myself and not contact her? Will that get results ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
lol not at all, she kept coming over for the next two weeks after we ****ed
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
yup
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she told me point blank she thinks I’m attractive
lamath
Master Don Juan
You should not waste time on a women that does not want to bang.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Dont listen to her word man, watch what she is doing.
She is not banging act accordingly
walk away, if she reaches, make sure it's clear you want to **** or it's a no go to any other contacts.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.